Why do married people (especially men) flirt so much online? Why does a guy I.M. and immediately think you?

are ';that kind of girl'; even when you don't flirt back and say nothing to indicate otherwise. They always want to steer the conversation towards sex. Are there no other things to talk about online with the opposite sex? Do guys I.M. with one goal in mind? It's a flirting thing I know and most of the time harmless but what is the point really? The guy doesn't know you and knows nothing at all about you but if you have a pretty face then BAM! They want to chat. I wonder how their wives would feel if they knew how their men were behaving online????Why do married people (especially men) flirt so much online? Why does a guy I.M. and immediately think you?
I would imagine you will get, or have already gotten smart remarks from both men and women. I am sorry about that.





I have a friend who I talk with occasionally. No matter what I say to him, he can turn it to something sexual. This tells me





1) He doesn't get as much sex as he desires from his wife OR he doesn't get it the way he wants it. It could be he wants more (times) or more (then just a few minutes)





2) To him, the sex is not good enough.





3) He finds the person he is talking to sexier then his own wife. I am that person, because it is me he is talking to. I find that very sad. I have told him that as well. I tell him ';Your wife should be the most important person to you. Not only that she should be the most beautiful, sexiest woman to you.'; He always says ';I know.';








Great question. Good luck with the answers and have a great day!Why do married people (especially men) flirt so much online? Why does a guy I.M. and immediately think you?
online chatting, IM is a form of fantasy... personally I would be concerned if my spouse was doing this.
It is sexually stimulating to talk to someone on line and it's even more stimulation if you have a webcam.........very much like pornography, but more so because you are actually interacting with someone else. It also gives men a sense of power and confidence....especially if the women are cooperating with their advances.


Men love sex and they like it with alot of women. It takes a very mature and strong man to turn away sexual advances from another woman. It also takes alot of will power to not succumb to the temptation that the internet provides.


Just think about it....when you I.M someone it is free, very confidental, and fun............so even if a man is in a relationship he can always turn to the net for some entertainment without the fear of getting caught, but it is still cheating because the intention is there.


All we can do as women is treat our men with love, respect, and admiration. Keep there belly full and there sexual urges satisfied. If that doesn't keep them faithful......nothing will. Good luck to you!!!!
Human instinct is to add your genes to the gene pool. The more sexual partners you have, the better chance your genes have of surviving in the gene pool.





I guess they just have a lousy pick up technique when they try to get the sex partners.
maybe you can find your answer if you can answer these few questions. If you have a husband, boyfriend, or companion,


1) How often do you flirt with them when you get home?





2) How long does your flirt last?





3) Compare flirting with your husband, boyfriend or companion to someone online. Which one really excited you?





For most cases that is on most men mind and the women as well. I have done my own little survey when talking to women online. If I don't talk about sex some where in our conversation she have little interesting to continue chatting with me. And when I flirt more and talk about sex and so on. Our conversation last for the whole entire time while we online. She was looking forward to chat with me again. Can you explain that for me, please?
You say your not picking on men, but your entire question is a biased man hating out of line ignorant opinion. You are obviously hanging around the wrong chat rooms if you are running into these guys. On top of the fact, that if you do not know them, how do you know they are married. And if you have such a problem with these guys, block them from chatting with you and move on to someone else.





Edit: My toes stepped on, let me make one thing clear, I have been very happily married for 11 years to the most wonderful woman in the world. I just get sick of man hating morons who make statements like you did and then try to make it ok by saying...';I'm not picking on men, I'm just asking.';





P.S. set your IM to show you offline or to private and then they will not IM you...or better yet, just ignore them.
That is exactly why I don't I.M. anyone - people always get the wrong impressions.
I'm a married man and I will admit, I used to do that. And it caused problems in my marriage, my wife and I went through marriage counceling and since then, I don't flirt with women when I chat. I talk with women on-line, but don't flirt.





I think the reason that some married people flirt on-line is because they feel they are not getting enough attention at home, so they think that flirting with someone on-line will help fill that void.
my hubby plays wow (an online game where they can chat/ im each other) he has this girl that he plays with sometimes. She always send him smiley faces with all her messages. I told him that she is trying to flirt. He says he doesnt see it. I also told him to stop sending smileys back and he says things like ';Did you miss me'; if he hasnt been on the game in a while with her. And he says thats not flirting. Then he says its ok because she is married. Um no married people cheat all the time. Duh. She even notices every single time he makes it to a new level and makes a point to message him and say something. Now if thats not flirting then i dont know what is
Honest answer! When I spend time online it's usually because I'm board. (I seem to get bored allot.)





I don't know why, but when I'm bored, I'm usually also horny.





If that's true of allot of guys online, then when you are online, you are with a bunch of bored, horny guys looking for an online adventure.
I think it's just easier to act out what you fel without the nagging of the wife and for women it's easier to role play as well. They can be the Goddess in the story.


It's just easier to be who you want to be online especailly when in reality you are nothing like that
I never understood why anyone does the IM thing with people they do not know??? Sorry I was no help!