Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Professionalism vs. ladies man?

I'm trying to decide who I really am. Am I a playful/flirting ladies man or someone who acts professional and lives his life in a professional and courteous manner.





Do I try to pick up and have sex with as many chicks as possible, or commit myself to one woman?





I have been both of these men, professional first and ladies man second. I don't feel any moral differences between the two, but in the business world that I will be entering upon college graduation, I am wondering how I should act.





Ladies like to be flirted with, but on the other hand if I show a dominating appearance I can become a more hardened businessman.





The whole ';have sex with every chick you can get your hands on'; is a little overrated, as sex really has no meaning to me. It gets so old. I think there's more to life than sex.





What does everyone think?Professionalism vs. ladies man?
WOW! Very loaded question. Being a woman I am attracted to different men. A man who knows who he is and has morales and will not bend from them is the most attractive. Always be true to yourself first. ALWAYS. Otherwise, you will be in this dilemma forever. Flirtatious all the time will attract women who lack self esteem and self confidence and end up needy and clingy. Just the opposite, business like, will attract confident women who are independent but will also never need you and will have no quams of kicking you to the curb when things don't go her way. The happy medium...ahh...the true question. Abstain and stop looking and concentrate on your career and love will come when you least expect it from the perfect one. One night stands in the interim are to be treated just like that with no expectations or regrets!!!Professionalism vs. ladies man?
I guess it depends on what kind of relationship you want. If you become a ';ladies man'; you'll get lots of short-term relationships. If you are the type to commit to one woman, go for the professional type. No one here can tell you what you should do. It's up to you.
Hate to have to tell you this, but it is always a bad idea to date the women you work with or to date women who do business with your company.





I am head of HR where I work. The best thing is to leave your politics, religion and sex life at home when you go to work. This is not always the easiest thing to do, but is the hallmark of a truly professional person.





As far as your approach to women, you might consider that nice men treat women the way they would want a man to treat their own daughters if they had them. If you think any father would be thrilled at the thought of your using his daughters for sex and points on your ';scorecard';, you are either misinformed, or have been raised by wolves..





There are many wonderful books written on workplace behavior. Reading them is good preparation for someone who is getting ready to try to join the ranks of working adults. Be sure, too, to familiarize yourself with the current laws concerning sexual harassment in the workplace.





You will be surprised to learn that your behavior toward the women you work with has consequences for not only you, but for every manager in the company you work for. From your question, one gets the impression that you are not very familiar with workplace regulations regarding the way men are supposed to behave around the women they work with.





Since this is the etiquette section, one can only advise you to try to adhere to the philosophy of being an honorable gentleman at all times. Cads and bounders are a dime a dozen, but gentlemen are rarer, and highly valued by everyone...including employers.

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