But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swearer's I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time.....He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i'd be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don't trust him. He just doesn't get what he has destroyed. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don't know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women ';IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFE'S SO MUCH'; I JUST DON'T KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is Truly sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love's me. I cry often, but he doesn't know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It's a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven't told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don't want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrassing for me and I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I know that's sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don't want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We've had enough pain, so involving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn't want to loose ';US'; when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. He is constantly tell me that he love's me and never has Cheated since Italy with the Kiss. He tells me he didn't realize the things he was doing recently was going to hurt me or that I would call it cheating. But I am so confused %26amp; not sure if I can trust him. Guys what are some signs that a guy is really sorry. HELP!!!!!!! Guy's Help, Is my husband really sorry? Should I try to trust once again? ?
I am sorry for the pain your going through …this kind of stuff just eats you up, wears you down …..causes fear, distrust, and eventually hardening of the heart.
The answers you seek most likely will not come from here, but from you husband, because every situation is different and most all answers will have that persons experience entwined in them.
“Sorry” to me means: the slightest hint of impropriety will be totally removed from my lifestyle.
That means that he can not have any close friends that are women, no contact with classmates who are women, abandon the my space site………. etc, etc. ….if you’re really sorry; because right now he has not shown that he is trustworthy.
Cheating is just a matter of semantics as Bill Clinton has taught us ….I am not saying your husband is having sex or smoking cigars, but if the time, energy and focus he is putting into others {online or whatever} was spent with the one who he is married to; who he says he loves, and doesn’t want to loose………. we wouldn’t be having this conversation.
As the Bible says: where your thoughts are there will your heart be also
So he needs to change his actions to match his verbal proclamation …..if he wants to keep you, because sooner or later, if this continues …you will just say enough is enough…and who could blame you, you should not have to endure this mental torment …no one should
Guy's Help, Is my husband really sorry? Should I try to trust once again? ?
Too many words !
Men love Women unless they are Gay .
Free love is hard to say NO to .
Better to ask for forgiveness than permission .
He deserves a break from all that conversation .
no way in hell am i reading all of this
if he was really sorry, he would stop the behavior. some people are chronic emotional voids. they need attention from the other sex all the time to feel good about themselves. umless he realizes that there are consequences to his behavior - accepts that it is WRONG - and without serious counselling, your husband is NOT going to change.
i notice that you have a child with cancer and you are dealing with all of that stress. and where are this guy's priorities? lining up other women to get attention from - not supporting his child and his wife emotionally. you have needs too at this difficult time where you could be facing the loss of a child. apparently, you are just not important enough for him to slow down on the cheating - he has no respect for you at all. i'm amazed that some people on here think you should cut him some slack, when he has proven himself so unworthy as a husband and father.
From what I can tell, he only shows some interest in women. But he probably never went all the way and had sex with another woman.
It's normal for all men to be attracted to many women, and not just their wives. And as long as it only remains an attraction that doesn't lead to outright cheating. Then perhaps you should cut your husband some slack.
Going online to an Adult website is not cheating in the normal sense of this word. And perhaps you should let him have this kind of an outlet in order to avoid problems in your relationship with him.
Perhaps your marriage is not perfect. But marriage breakdown and divorce would probably make things worse not just for you and him but also for your kids. And it's this kind of consequences you need to consider before you do anything rash.
been there done that after 28 years of marriage and cheated on twice i can feel your pain but dont have the answers for you because i am still trying to figure it out myself can someone tell why men/women cheat when things seem to be great at home good luck honey
Whattt? your answering you own question,on and on and on,You can try to talk your way out of it all you want(your sure trying to)
Follow your God given female intuition,this guy will make you physically and mentally sick,thats a promise.
Find the strength to say good bye.Like ive always said ';once a cheat always a cheat';
Ditch this idiot,regain your self respect and self confidence.Im a man and I know what men are capable of doing.Don't live HIS lie..............Blessings
im very sorry to hear that.
but to be honest, all guys
are ***'s. you dont need a man.
i got married when i was 17,
divorced at 17 (6 monthes laternow
i'm 37 and i will NEVER get married
i am so confident and independant
i couldnt handle that. sorry thats i have to
say. YOU DONT NEED A MAN
they are ALWAYS trouble. :)
dump him.
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