Me and my gf are both 30. She has this habit of enjoying men flirting with her and she never stops them. She sometimes flirts back.
OK, I don't have problems with it IF ONLY I get the same rights. If a girl flirts with me and I laugh or smile, my gf accuses me of flirting and gets all hurt. But when she is doing something similar (smiling at guys flirting with her), it is supposed to be friendly. She says she does not want to come across as rude to those guys. Then, why do I become the bad guy if I am smiling at women flirting with me?
I know my gf loves me and I love her. But, why aren't the same standards applicable to me? Honestly, I don't want to flirt with any other woman apart from her. I am NOT looking for an excuse to flirt. I just want to know why the double standards and how I can get my gf to stop. We even had a talk at times but she forgets all that after a month or so and it's back to her enjoying the flirting.My gf loves it when guys flirt with her...?
The only way to stop her is for her to see you flirting, tell her that you will stop when she does. Show her who the Man is...My gf loves it when guys flirt with her...?
cause she need to know from others that she's still good, where i guess she thinks that as a guy, you don't need to be told these things by strangers, rather that this filrting may lead to sex, (because the woman filrting always controls where things go).
dear buddy
looks like u really love her
but then i feel itz hi time u 4get her
there r many gud gals in the world
true
I've heard from a very reliable source that your gf isn't very mature and that i'm a jacka**
That isnt good, Double standards isnt fair. Its good that you've had talks with her so it shows you're concerned. Now, In my opinion the age of 30 is a time when folks should settle down from they screw up ways from their younger years.
You have to ask yourself (because the Double Standard Bothers you) is this the person you want to be with?
Ok.. It's simple
She loves you, you love her.. This shouldn't affect you that much. Can't you see that, if she knows you love her, maybe your opinion about her look is just not enough.. Love is blind did you know? And she probably needs the flirting to feel that she's steel attractive to the opposite sex. No second intentions ..
Or, she might just like that ur jealous of her.. It means you really like her!
But, u know.. Well.. Guys have the fame of being a little less innocent, right? So when u flirt with a girl ur girlfriend get's jeaulous..
I'm not saying it's fair.. Hey, the world's unfair, big news! But I do get it..
Don't make a big deal out of it.. Tell her everyday she's awesome... Eventually it will go away! U love each other.. U'll work it out..
Good Luck dude
Time to get a new girlfriend
being a women and knowing that I am right just agree and let her flirt it is prob her way of being friendly not sleazy but never admit you are flirting save the greif
ps women are elephants never forget
it's really unfair to act that way. she needs to know that it is making you very uncomfortable. no one HAS to flirt, she is not required to flirt back if a guy is doing it to her. how she comes off to other guys is not as important--or at all important--as to how she comes off towards you. flirting can be done with other people without hurting your significant other. she doesn't have to talk to other men that try to talk to her, she can simply smile and say ';sorry i'm with my boyfriend';. no harm done and everyone still has their dignity.
Girls by nature love to be noticed and feel they are attracting, as far as she loves you and she is faithful, i advise you not to take time to bother youself with this idea and try to talk to her kindly telling her that that hurts your feelings and if she really love you she would slow down.
On the other hand she might be teasing you to feel your hot love because some girls sense that through jealousy
I don't think it's got anything to do with maturity as i think ts more to do with her self esteem. She may be feeling old and unattractive so she over reacts when someone flirts with her. To be honest no matter what my age is i would never flirt with another man in front of my boyfriend it is very disrespectful, for that matter i don't flirt when he aint there! A bit of banter is ok because we all like to feel attractivebut in front of our boyfriends... i think not!!! If you have made it clear that it is not to your liking and by clear i mean a proper talk about how it makes you FEEL not how much it makes you angry and pissed off then this is not on. A word of advice if you don't like her flirting then you shouldn't do it either as this just gives her an excuse even though she started in the first place. In a marriage/ relationship there will always be something that will bug you bout the other person the question is does it bug you enough to leave over if it doesn't stop?? Good Luck.
She can't stop other men from flirting with her, and I'm sure it does make her feel good- would for many. She can, however, stop herself from flirting back, and she's not. You've already made it clear you don't like this, that it's hurting you, and she's not respecting that. She's not really respecting YOU, now, is she? And my question to you is- Is she worth that?
I wouldn't put up with that very long from a partner... no one should, so don't put up with it, either.
Emotionally immature.You got to see her past,so talk to her.
this is a big time trust issue i think. theres nothing wrong with flirting as long as thats all it is. its a really big confidence booster. As far as her being jealous when you do it?? uncalled for, definitly. I think the two of you need to sit down ant talk about his and you need to let her know exactley how you feel and you need to try to make her understand that when you flirt..thats all it is and that she is the one you love and remind her that you are the one you leave with at the end of the night and no one else. If its causing a rift in the relationship maybe suggest that you both tone it down a little. Have you guys tried flirting with each other when out in public? Soetimes thats a great way to remind yourselves why you are together and hey...its fun!!!
Good luck, hope this helped
All g/f like the attention of another guy, it makes them feel like there still prtty, maybe you should compliment her a lot more!
keep a journal of how often she does it or record her doing it.sometimes that helps the person see there own actions.Most times people cant see there own negative actions in them-self but are quick to condemn others of the same actions they just did.Some time making them face it shows that they cant be the pot calling the kettle black...
May be she is looking for a gang bank and enjoys it.
It just makes her fgeel better about herself which is sad. You wouls think at 30 she would be more mature. Move on Buddy!
hahaha... it is the double standards of a woman...
she is 30, feeling old and needs reassurance she is still sexy...
so she enjoys the attentions of strangers... it gives her a little thrill and gets her turned on...
BUT as a guy, you are NOT allowed to do the same to other women, cos that is disrespectful to her and she get jealous and angry...
WELCOME TO RELATIONSHIP HELL!!! :D
sorry but she's being disrespectful. if you gawped at every women she'd hate it, so explain this to her nd ask her to stop.
Tricky. She obviously enjoys it. You are not comfortable with this and she should try and understand where you are coming from. Insecurity maybe.
At thirty most women are in their prime so if you make this an issue it might backfire. I think you need to set some ground rules. Tit for tat.
The basis of any good relationship is trust.
If you trust her not to let this get out of hand then just let her go and see what happens.
Think you have a viable argument and good on you for recognising this potential problem. Good luck
You also enjoy flirting
She just likes the attention, she needs to know that she's still desirable and wanted by men. Nothing is meant by it, it's a girl thing.
It is because the reasons that men flirt and women flirt are very different.
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