I always have a lot of men flirting with me and telling me I'm beautiful. Some even offer to take care of me and by me things. To be completely honest, I'm not that attractive. Do you think these men think I will have s-x with them, and be grateful because I'm not very attractive. I'm so discouraged. How will I find a true man?18 + please?
First,know that this advice comes from a 50 year old dude who respects women and is glad that you are being careful with these issues.You say lots of men flirt w/you and you think they are just looking for an ';easy piece'; because you don't think that you're attractive.I suspect that ';lots of men'; wouldn't be hitting on you if you were not attractive.Sounds like you are someone like I was in my younger days-someone w/low self esteem.At the same time,I am wondering in what circles are you meeting these men?I mean,do they come from groups of men who typically are pretty much ';just looking for a piece?';Only you know the answer to that.Unfortunately,in this world the majority of men are looking for just that.You ask how can you find a decent man?My suggestions may sound boring to you but several of my single female friends have taken these suggestions and have pleased w/the results.Places where you have a better chance of finding a decent guy---Church,the library,the supermarket,coffee shops,taking a continuing ed course,joining a club of people with whom you share a common interest,i.e. cycling clubs,extreme sports clubs,civic orgs.,Obama campaign volunteers (I just had to sneek in my own propaganda),hospital volunteers(you might meet a $$doctor$$),just kidding,don't hook up w/a guy just for his money because then you'll be no better than the jerks who are ';just looking for a piece';. So,I hope that these suggestions will be helpful.Good luck,God bless you and just PRECEED W/CAUTION! stage425hnc@yahoo.com18 + please?
If you're not attractive and men ask you out a lot they probably expect you'll sleep with them. Especially if they try to buy you things a lot. To find out go out with the guy, don't except gifts and tell him you want to wait on physical intimacy. The right guy will accept this for a reasonable amount of time.
I would say all men want to get laid, and would think you or any other woman would have sex with them. I bet you're a beautiful woman who has tons to offer... i would just be staright up and don't do anything sexual with any guys for a while.. the key really is patience and don't be judgemental!
Ofcourse they are offerring you things with hopes of getting something in return. If men are always hitting on you enjoy it. I'm sure you're beautiful and most likely since you're in doubt, you're probably very sexually attractive. Big boobs maybe?
While it's probably not true of all of them, I have found that shy guys, the ones that may be too timid to approach a girl they like, have purer intentions than those who are arrogant or try to buy your affection. I think someone like that would appreciate you more as well.
Maybe they find you attractive; seems like this would be a good problem to have. Find one that is honest and genuine and give it a try. You can take it slow to see what his intentions are.
Some maybe, but you will have to trust a little to find out for sure. Don't just assume everyone is out to get you. There are still some good ones out there.(not many, but some) good luck
Call Dr. Phil, please. Either you are attention craved, or have a serious esteem issue.
And you'll get a gift all right... Herpes, and maybe even a baby.
You need to be more confident and don't accept any of their offensive proposals- don't have sex with any one for money.
This is a question that belongs in psychology not etiquette
not with these men obviously, just be patient
Yes.
Tell them- No Sex.
If they're really interested in you, sex wouldn't be such a big deal to them.
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Hmm lets see email me your picture and if I think your goodlooking you just met one. How old are these men? Sometimes older men want to be sugar daddies. thats my email I don't hide
If you get down on your knees, I'll buy you a diamond ring.
Friday, August 20, 2010
I need help with this... Please?
I'm writing a little play thingy for something and basically its about a relationship that gets torn apart because there's this woman that's trying to steal the man from the woman. No real reason I guess, she's just evil like that.
Anyways, I'm trying to make this realistic. I need to know how the woman would go about trying to steal this man. Flirting? How exactly? And what would be the beginning signs of the man to show he's interested?I need help with this... Please?
If there is no real reason, you are not going to have a very interesting or realistic play. Motivation--the reasons people do what they do--is everything in a script. Once you know WHY your character wants to get involved with someone else's partner, you will be able to figure out HOW the character would do it. Is she lonely? Is she jealous? Is she lonely AND jealous? Is she interested in money? sex? prestige? Is she not interested in the man at all, but interested in really hurting the woman? Answer the WHY does this character want to do this, and you will be able to more easily find the HOW.cute myspace long hair cut
Anyways, I'm trying to make this realistic. I need to know how the woman would go about trying to steal this man. Flirting? How exactly? And what would be the beginning signs of the man to show he's interested?I need help with this... Please?
If there is no real reason, you are not going to have a very interesting or realistic play. Motivation--the reasons people do what they do--is everything in a script. Once you know WHY your character wants to get involved with someone else's partner, you will be able to figure out HOW the character would do it. Is she lonely? Is she jealous? Is she lonely AND jealous? Is she interested in money? sex? prestige? Is she not interested in the man at all, but interested in really hurting the woman? Answer the WHY does this character want to do this, and you will be able to more easily find the HOW.
What should I do about my friend?
Jus to give a background about our appearances and personalities. I am of Slavic descent, high cheekbones, very pale eyes and pitch black hair cut in what one would call the Cleopatra style. People constantly call me exotic and beautiful. My friend is the typical girl-next-door and she has big boobs - a DD cup. While people refer to me as 'exotic', they treat her like a pair of t*ts on legs. She is bright, quick, witty, great to have a conversation with, outgoing, the life of the party and an extrovert but nobody seems to look past her boobs - men and women alike. We are the same weight but people refer to her as 'hefty' and 'big' and 'fat' because of her boobs.
Going out with her is a terrible experience because all the men flirt with me whilst they leer down her shirt. I can see that it hurts her a lot because it's been happening to her all her life. It really grates me to her see her treated like that, and she has told me on a number of occasions that she would rather look like me.
What can I do to take the attention off me and transfer it to her? I'm not someone who is flirty and have often been called an ice queen which makes men even more determined to break past the ice, whereas she is desperately looking for someone who will look past her boobs to the wonderful person who is inside? How can I help her?
I wish I had this magic wand to make it all better.What should I do about my friend?
The fundamental paradox is that the larger the boobs, the smaller the brains of the men they attract.
';Anatomy is destiny.'; Sigmund Freud said that.
When I was in the hunt, if I tried for the more attractive girl in a duo, I ordinarily ended up with her friend. Usually the friend was more interesting and fun anyway, so that was fine with me.
I don't see how you can solve her problem, or why it is your responsibility.What should I do about my friend?
i know how your friend is feeling as i am usualy classed as the chubby brunett that hangs out with the skinny big boobed blonde. maybe if you dressed a little less than equal to your friend it might give her the confidence to make men look above the chest?
im not really sure cuz i dont personally no ur friend
Most gals would die for her kind of boobs! Ask her to ignore the leering ones. Be proud of herself and dress up classy
well mmm i think that u should try and be a good friend as much as possible and show them wat you are mad of .
can you im me, maybe we can talk about it
Possibly dress down? You that is,
The same thing happens to me. I am 14 and a DD cup. Guys only talk to me about my boobs and many of them try to feel them. They don't actually like me for who I am, just for my boobs. I have been trying to find out for AGES how to distract them, but I can think of nothing!
The only thing I could suggest is get your friend to wear clothes that don't show her boobs off!
Hope this helps xx :)
Going out with her is a terrible experience because all the men flirt with me whilst they leer down her shirt. I can see that it hurts her a lot because it's been happening to her all her life. It really grates me to her see her treated like that, and she has told me on a number of occasions that she would rather look like me.
What can I do to take the attention off me and transfer it to her? I'm not someone who is flirty and have often been called an ice queen which makes men even more determined to break past the ice, whereas she is desperately looking for someone who will look past her boobs to the wonderful person who is inside? How can I help her?
I wish I had this magic wand to make it all better.What should I do about my friend?
The fundamental paradox is that the larger the boobs, the smaller the brains of the men they attract.
';Anatomy is destiny.'; Sigmund Freud said that.
When I was in the hunt, if I tried for the more attractive girl in a duo, I ordinarily ended up with her friend. Usually the friend was more interesting and fun anyway, so that was fine with me.
I don't see how you can solve her problem, or why it is your responsibility.What should I do about my friend?
i know how your friend is feeling as i am usualy classed as the chubby brunett that hangs out with the skinny big boobed blonde. maybe if you dressed a little less than equal to your friend it might give her the confidence to make men look above the chest?
im not really sure cuz i dont personally no ur friend
Most gals would die for her kind of boobs! Ask her to ignore the leering ones. Be proud of herself and dress up classy
well mmm i think that u should try and be a good friend as much as possible and show them wat you are mad of .
can you im me, maybe we can talk about it
Possibly dress down? You that is,
The same thing happens to me. I am 14 and a DD cup. Guys only talk to me about my boobs and many of them try to feel them. They don't actually like me for who I am, just for my boobs. I have been trying to find out for AGES how to distract them, but I can think of nothing!
The only thing I could suggest is get your friend to wear clothes that don't show her boobs off!
Hope this helps xx :)
My overprotective roommates are affecting my ability to have a romantic life!?
First, keep in mind, I'm a 30-year-old divorced woman, and I live with five older men (2 in their 40's, 1 in his 50's, one in his 60's). I was in dire need of a place to live, and moved in here because we were friends, and they're great guys and I love 'em to death. They have always seen me as a kind of baby sister.
However, anytime a man flirts with me and they're around, they just seem to be kind of protective. We had some other friends (close to my age) over and were hanging out, and one of them looked at a guy who was flirting with me and said, right in front of me, ';Don't mess with her, she's the baby sister.';
I appreciate their concern, but how do I tell them I'm a grown woman, and have needs? LOL
(btw, this isn't something that's a huge issue... i know they just want to see me safe and happy, and I do use this when an undesirable guy is hitting on me, but... you know.)My overprotective roommates are affecting my ability to have a romantic life!?
One or more of them wants to do you.My overprotective roommates are affecting my ability to have a romantic life!?
I see you have decided to live in a nursing home very early in your life.
However, anytime a man flirts with me and they're around, they just seem to be kind of protective. We had some other friends (close to my age) over and were hanging out, and one of them looked at a guy who was flirting with me and said, right in front of me, ';Don't mess with her, she's the baby sister.';
I appreciate their concern, but how do I tell them I'm a grown woman, and have needs? LOL
(btw, this isn't something that's a huge issue... i know they just want to see me safe and happy, and I do use this when an undesirable guy is hitting on me, but... you know.)My overprotective roommates are affecting my ability to have a romantic life!?
One or more of them wants to do you.My overprotective roommates are affecting my ability to have a romantic life!?
I see you have decided to live in a nursing home very early in your life.
Married or otherwise taken men who flirt with bartenders....?
Do you ever stop to think how hurt your wife would be? I wish I had a nickel for every taken man that comes in the bar and flirts-even though he knows I myself am taken and very happy. You can always since a little guilt on their part-then they bring up their partners. I just hate how many men there are out there who disrespect their mates....Married or otherwise taken men who flirt with bartenders....?
Once a man or a woman is in a relationship that means they are committed to the other person as the only one from the opposite sex to flirt with, love and be faithful to. If someone who is not up to this commitment, then he/she should not be in a relationship until they are ready.Married or otherwise taken men who flirt with bartenders....?
I am not a guy, but i am going to answer this. I am a HUGE flirt, my hubby is a bigger flirt. Fortunately we are both strong enough in our relationship to see flirtation as being different from a pick-up. I have no doubt in my husband's ability to remain faithful to me, nor my steadfast fidelity to him. We both have close friends of the opposite sex, some we flirt and joke with and some we just are friends with. He has a co-worker that I have very plainly stated to my husband that when it comes to this man I will flirt without shame-he is way to cute, way to funny and a big flirt as well-and also very happily married. I work at a hotel where 75% of our clients are regular guests who are sometimes here for months on end. They are in the oil field business and almost all men. I flirt. My husband knows. We live in a small community and he is a deputy and works with some very attractive paramedics on a regular basis. He flirts without shame with them, but I know that his joking with them is nothing more than conversation. he is not trying to hook up with them, just as i am not trying to hook up with any man I am having playful conversation with. Bottom line, flirtation is harmless, pick-up attempts are not. Flirtation when reciprocated builds confidence boosts the ego and just all around makes you feel a little better about yourself. So if I can make some decent guy feel a little better about himself by smiling and talking in my cute little Texas draw, then so be it, no harm done. And if some girl puts a smile on my husband's face by doing the same, again, no harm done.
I hate flirting when it's my wife because almost everyone know shes married and they still try and get into her pants!
And I really get PISSED OFF!
I do like to flirt it is all part of the fun and games you play when you see a stunning lady behind the bar.It must make you feel good to get all the attention a confidence booster at least.
And your question is???
So, guys flirt... If they do, walk away!!! Don't play the game, especially if you are supposedly happy...
I really do not like flirting and have never done it. I suppose it's ok for singles.
men like that does not deserve any respect. Once you're hooked up with someone married or not, you lose your flirting priviledges.
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I'd imagine that most of these guys who flirt are trying to see if they can still pull a good looking chick despite being married. Often times I'm sure its them being bored and maybe looking for a fun time, but don't want to go any further than flirting so they flirt with you out of convenience, meaning they're drinking and as opposed to flirting with other chicks in the bar who they might have to actually have to do some work to even talk to they flirt with you instead because you'll talk to them and have talked to them when you get them drinks.
So the guy flirts...that doesn't mean he wants anything more but friendly back and forth banter...maybe you're in the wrong type of employment if you can't take the ';flirting';. You also might want to learn how to spell...';You can always since a little guilt on their part-then they bring up their partners.'; That makes absolutely no SENSE at all. Get over yourself I doubt half the men you THINK want you would give you the time of day if you weren't serving them drinks in a bar.
Flirting in a bar, after having a few drinks is not to be considered as flirting ... but having a good time with a woman... joking with her, talking to her etc. It is innocent and live and let live. That is why they employ females as bar girls.
Once a man or a woman is in a relationship that means they are committed to the other person as the only one from the opposite sex to flirt with, love and be faithful to. If someone who is not up to this commitment, then he/she should not be in a relationship until they are ready.Married or otherwise taken men who flirt with bartenders....?
I am not a guy, but i am going to answer this. I am a HUGE flirt, my hubby is a bigger flirt. Fortunately we are both strong enough in our relationship to see flirtation as being different from a pick-up. I have no doubt in my husband's ability to remain faithful to me, nor my steadfast fidelity to him. We both have close friends of the opposite sex, some we flirt and joke with and some we just are friends with. He has a co-worker that I have very plainly stated to my husband that when it comes to this man I will flirt without shame-he is way to cute, way to funny and a big flirt as well-and also very happily married. I work at a hotel where 75% of our clients are regular guests who are sometimes here for months on end. They are in the oil field business and almost all men. I flirt. My husband knows. We live in a small community and he is a deputy and works with some very attractive paramedics on a regular basis. He flirts without shame with them, but I know that his joking with them is nothing more than conversation. he is not trying to hook up with them, just as i am not trying to hook up with any man I am having playful conversation with. Bottom line, flirtation is harmless, pick-up attempts are not. Flirtation when reciprocated builds confidence boosts the ego and just all around makes you feel a little better about yourself. So if I can make some decent guy feel a little better about himself by smiling and talking in my cute little Texas draw, then so be it, no harm done. And if some girl puts a smile on my husband's face by doing the same, again, no harm done.
I hate flirting when it's my wife because almost everyone know shes married and they still try and get into her pants!
And I really get PISSED OFF!
I do like to flirt it is all part of the fun and games you play when you see a stunning lady behind the bar.It must make you feel good to get all the attention a confidence booster at least.
And your question is???
So, guys flirt... If they do, walk away!!! Don't play the game, especially if you are supposedly happy...
I really do not like flirting and have never done it. I suppose it's ok for singles.
men like that does not deserve any respect. Once you're hooked up with someone married or not, you lose your flirting priviledges.
http://lanispage.blogspot.com/
I'd imagine that most of these guys who flirt are trying to see if they can still pull a good looking chick despite being married. Often times I'm sure its them being bored and maybe looking for a fun time, but don't want to go any further than flirting so they flirt with you out of convenience, meaning they're drinking and as opposed to flirting with other chicks in the bar who they might have to actually have to do some work to even talk to they flirt with you instead because you'll talk to them and have talked to them when you get them drinks.
So the guy flirts...that doesn't mean he wants anything more but friendly back and forth banter...maybe you're in the wrong type of employment if you can't take the ';flirting';. You also might want to learn how to spell...';You can always since a little guilt on their part-then they bring up their partners.'; That makes absolutely no SENSE at all. Get over yourself I doubt half the men you THINK want you would give you the time of day if you weren't serving them drinks in a bar.
Flirting in a bar, after having a few drinks is not to be considered as flirting ... but having a good time with a woman... joking with her, talking to her etc. It is innocent and live and let live. That is why they employ females as bar girls.
A couple of questions for any gay people on this site?
Hi! I've got a couple of queries about male homosexuality, I am purely curious so if you could offer any insight I'd be grateful. I do not know much about the gay world, so if I put my foot in it please let me know, and forgive me!
OK, firstly; the 'camp', very effeminate gay men. Is this an act, or are they generally like that? I don't mean to offend, but when I meet a gay man who is very obviously camp, I often wonder if they put on the whole lisp/ limp wrist thing, or if they actually don't realise they're doing it.
Secondly, in a physical relationship, is one man always the man (giver) and one always the woman (taker)? If so, am I right to presume it's the camp guys who play the women? Again, please, please forgive me if I have caused offence.
Lastly, the cracker! I believe I, myself, might be little attracted towards men. Flirting with men does it for me, but I am not sure about the physical aspect of it. Do I necessarily have to be physically attracted to men? If so, what's the best way to experiment- should I just walk up to someone in a gay bar and say, 'Look, I'm new to this and think I might like men...you look nice, can we, you know, try something out?'
If it was you I approached like this, how would you feel?
Thank you for any serious advice, and I truly am sorry if I have caused offence.A couple of questions for any gay people on this site?
Firstly, no offence taken.
1. I know several ';camp'; gay men and must admit I have never asked them about it but they are always like it so I guess it is they way they are. Always very friendly and very nice people.
2. It's not always the camp guy who is on the bottom. There are three categories, (for want of a better way of putting it), Top, bottom or versatile, i think they explain themselves! I'm versatile because I like giving and receiving.
3. Go for it! Had a guy do that to me in the past and he loved the whole experience and I loved showing him!
Hope this helpsA couple of questions for any gay people on this site?
I don't believe the Camp men really try to be what is so obvious. in the second question there is a gay saying that you never know who will turn over first. Some of the effeminate guys are pretty dominate in the bedroom.
And in the third case I think it would be a good approach. Try it
Some people think I'm effeminate, but I am just acting like me. I'm not doing anything intentionally.
Second, it's not always that way.
Last, do what you feel comfortable with.
I'm a bisexual guy, and I honestly don't know if the campy guys are for real or not. People can be naturally more masculine or feminine, but the campy guys sort of remind me of vally girls the way they take it to the extreme.
I don't particularly believe in roles in a relationship myself. I think it would be a little boring to only be on top, or be on the bottom all the time, although myself I prefer bottom, I'll happily be a top. Some guys, are just not into top/bottom, and wont do the other. I also don't see the point in dominant/submissive role in everyday life, the bedroom is fine, but just be yourself in a relationship.
If you like to flirt with men you are at least bi curious. I would suggest you do just that, flirt, maybe a kiss, you'll know if your into it, and you'll know if your not. You don't need to read a disclaimer to a guy how this doesn't mean your going to have sex with him if you flirt a little. Hope I helped
Davey don't worry about offending people, because it is quite clear from the way that you are asking these questions you are genuine.
'Camp' is always difficult because camp does not have to be effeminate, therefore a man can be camp e.g. showy, 'life is a drama', etc, etc without being gay!
Effeminacy is something that is also a little down to the individual - where exactly do you draw that line? Is it effeminate i.e. to show female traits to be sensitive (for example) to be emotional (e.g. not afraid to cry) or even to be into facial products like skin care, etc(not necessarily make-up)
Yes there are 'camp queens' who are overtly effeminate (in stereotype) don't care who knows, hears or sees it and can cause offence to those who don't know better. However again I have found some people who are 'like that' to be really witty, a good laugh and as genuine as anyone else.
So it all comes down to definition - what you are personally comfortable with in terms of how you appear to others and how others appear to you. There are no hard or fast rules, it is what you want out of life. I know plenty of men who have sex with other men, but don't term themselves as gay and men who don't have sex with other who do term themselves gay. It is what they are comfortable with and no one 'demands' because you have some sort of undefined attraction toward men that automatically means you are one thing or another!
No, not everyone who acts camp knows they do it. But some do put on a show, just to show you who they are. I know I never act like that.
As far as the man and female thing, it happens A LOT but sometimes 2 men are just men, together. There is no female/male, right or wrong role. It just is.
';If it was you I approached like this, how would you feel?';
2 things: I'd be happy that you came up to me with such ease and bluntness and I would either say, ';Let's see'; and want to talk or say, ';OK'; and we could do things. :)
Hope I helped. :)
camp: its for real, but it can get turned up or turned down.
No, not always one or the other.
3rd, well, thats a bit forward. Perhaps you should go the same path as you would with a women. That is talk first and see if you actually care to bother. But the fast track might work just as well. Be sure you tell him you are new to this. For some its a real turn on and they will make sure its an unhurried experience.
Hi, Davey - must admit, I'm a bit camp, but as I'm a railway engineer, tend to sometimes over-state some sort of machismo whilst at work. I'm a mummy's boy, and so was given loads of practise from the age of seven onwards (being half French also does the trick!) but do it almost unconsciously now - but am relaxed with it. I would argue my 'campness' is indeed natural, but have met men here in Manchester, and elsewhere who put it on a bit more than they should, really - just as much as I act all 'alpha male' whilst at work. Could it not be true that most - if not all of us go through life acting. What about the teenagers/young men who put on acts to impress not only each other, but women - as for women themselves. Well!! We all go through life to try and impress - whatever sex we are.
As for your admiration to men - most gay men would not only see through you, but ask what your 'game' is. You don't say how old you are, but if you're over, say, 30 - then you may have realised a strange feling you used to have years ago has returned - despite you having a wife and children! There are many men who have gone through this - got married, then couldn't continue the act. All I can suggest is you dive into the pool and test your tolerance!
Well kiddo, you seem to be a direct and pragmatic person. Your thoughts on the dynamics of a homosexual relationship are interesting, but perhaps a bit clouded in the stereotypical behaviors often associated with gay men. I've met some very nice non-gay individuals in my life and have often been told with the utmost sincerity, that I could pass for non-gay. Little did they know that I was secretly clutching my pearls and gasping! But always conducting myself as a gentleman, I take the opportunity to inform as well as educate.
So, there are some men with preferences to receiving (bottom) or giving (top), but there are also men who enjoy both giving and receiving (versatile).Now, you only get one first time, so put some thought into it. Perhaps you could establish a friendly rapport and get the know the guy. See him a few times and go from there. And do what feels right for both if you. Have fun!
The camp gay - generally they are just being themselves. The more comfortable a person feels with those around him the easier it is to be very silly and campy. However, it is still 'them'
Some men flip flop, some men are only top and some men are only bottom.
Take it slow. No need to rush into anything. I say simply go to a bar and have drinks and hang out and meet people. Get a comfort level before you proceed. Your very honest approach would certainly win points with me.
You sound like an exceptionally nice guy I am sure you will work this out just fine.
lol, camp. i just call them flamboyant or flamers, depends on if i like them or not, and it's not always an act
not always, rarely actually, as both are equals and most ppl are versitile.
lol, go for it then. just be safe and make sure ur comfortable, and the guy ur with. honestly, i think with that, ull be taken advantage of and may even hurt the other person, as sex does kinda mean something to some ppl. but i think u should at least like them.....
OK, firstly; the 'camp', very effeminate gay men. Is this an act, or are they generally like that? I don't mean to offend, but when I meet a gay man who is very obviously camp, I often wonder if they put on the whole lisp/ limp wrist thing, or if they actually don't realise they're doing it.
Secondly, in a physical relationship, is one man always the man (giver) and one always the woman (taker)? If so, am I right to presume it's the camp guys who play the women? Again, please, please forgive me if I have caused offence.
Lastly, the cracker! I believe I, myself, might be little attracted towards men. Flirting with men does it for me, but I am not sure about the physical aspect of it. Do I necessarily have to be physically attracted to men? If so, what's the best way to experiment- should I just walk up to someone in a gay bar and say, 'Look, I'm new to this and think I might like men...you look nice, can we, you know, try something out?'
If it was you I approached like this, how would you feel?
Thank you for any serious advice, and I truly am sorry if I have caused offence.A couple of questions for any gay people on this site?
Firstly, no offence taken.
1. I know several ';camp'; gay men and must admit I have never asked them about it but they are always like it so I guess it is they way they are. Always very friendly and very nice people.
2. It's not always the camp guy who is on the bottom. There are three categories, (for want of a better way of putting it), Top, bottom or versatile, i think they explain themselves! I'm versatile because I like giving and receiving.
3. Go for it! Had a guy do that to me in the past and he loved the whole experience and I loved showing him!
Hope this helpsA couple of questions for any gay people on this site?
I don't believe the Camp men really try to be what is so obvious. in the second question there is a gay saying that you never know who will turn over first. Some of the effeminate guys are pretty dominate in the bedroom.
And in the third case I think it would be a good approach. Try it
Some people think I'm effeminate, but I am just acting like me. I'm not doing anything intentionally.
Second, it's not always that way.
Last, do what you feel comfortable with.
I'm a bisexual guy, and I honestly don't know if the campy guys are for real or not. People can be naturally more masculine or feminine, but the campy guys sort of remind me of vally girls the way they take it to the extreme.
I don't particularly believe in roles in a relationship myself. I think it would be a little boring to only be on top, or be on the bottom all the time, although myself I prefer bottom, I'll happily be a top. Some guys, are just not into top/bottom, and wont do the other. I also don't see the point in dominant/submissive role in everyday life, the bedroom is fine, but just be yourself in a relationship.
If you like to flirt with men you are at least bi curious. I would suggest you do just that, flirt, maybe a kiss, you'll know if your into it, and you'll know if your not. You don't need to read a disclaimer to a guy how this doesn't mean your going to have sex with him if you flirt a little. Hope I helped
Davey don't worry about offending people, because it is quite clear from the way that you are asking these questions you are genuine.
'Camp' is always difficult because camp does not have to be effeminate, therefore a man can be camp e.g. showy, 'life is a drama', etc, etc without being gay!
Effeminacy is something that is also a little down to the individual - where exactly do you draw that line? Is it effeminate i.e. to show female traits to be sensitive (for example) to be emotional (e.g. not afraid to cry) or even to be into facial products like skin care, etc(not necessarily make-up)
Yes there are 'camp queens' who are overtly effeminate (in stereotype) don't care who knows, hears or sees it and can cause offence to those who don't know better. However again I have found some people who are 'like that' to be really witty, a good laugh and as genuine as anyone else.
So it all comes down to definition - what you are personally comfortable with in terms of how you appear to others and how others appear to you. There are no hard or fast rules, it is what you want out of life. I know plenty of men who have sex with other men, but don't term themselves as gay and men who don't have sex with other who do term themselves gay. It is what they are comfortable with and no one 'demands' because you have some sort of undefined attraction toward men that automatically means you are one thing or another!
No, not everyone who acts camp knows they do it. But some do put on a show, just to show you who they are. I know I never act like that.
As far as the man and female thing, it happens A LOT but sometimes 2 men are just men, together. There is no female/male, right or wrong role. It just is.
';If it was you I approached like this, how would you feel?';
2 things: I'd be happy that you came up to me with such ease and bluntness and I would either say, ';Let's see'; and want to talk or say, ';OK'; and we could do things. :)
Hope I helped. :)
camp: its for real, but it can get turned up or turned down.
No, not always one or the other.
3rd, well, thats a bit forward. Perhaps you should go the same path as you would with a women. That is talk first and see if you actually care to bother. But the fast track might work just as well. Be sure you tell him you are new to this. For some its a real turn on and they will make sure its an unhurried experience.
Hi, Davey - must admit, I'm a bit camp, but as I'm a railway engineer, tend to sometimes over-state some sort of machismo whilst at work. I'm a mummy's boy, and so was given loads of practise from the age of seven onwards (being half French also does the trick!) but do it almost unconsciously now - but am relaxed with it. I would argue my 'campness' is indeed natural, but have met men here in Manchester, and elsewhere who put it on a bit more than they should, really - just as much as I act all 'alpha male' whilst at work. Could it not be true that most - if not all of us go through life acting. What about the teenagers/young men who put on acts to impress not only each other, but women - as for women themselves. Well!! We all go through life to try and impress - whatever sex we are.
As for your admiration to men - most gay men would not only see through you, but ask what your 'game' is. You don't say how old you are, but if you're over, say, 30 - then you may have realised a strange feling you used to have years ago has returned - despite you having a wife and children! There are many men who have gone through this - got married, then couldn't continue the act. All I can suggest is you dive into the pool and test your tolerance!
Well kiddo, you seem to be a direct and pragmatic person. Your thoughts on the dynamics of a homosexual relationship are interesting, but perhaps a bit clouded in the stereotypical behaviors often associated with gay men. I've met some very nice non-gay individuals in my life and have often been told with the utmost sincerity, that I could pass for non-gay. Little did they know that I was secretly clutching my pearls and gasping! But always conducting myself as a gentleman, I take the opportunity to inform as well as educate.
So, there are some men with preferences to receiving (bottom) or giving (top), but there are also men who enjoy both giving and receiving (versatile).Now, you only get one first time, so put some thought into it. Perhaps you could establish a friendly rapport and get the know the guy. See him a few times and go from there. And do what feels right for both if you. Have fun!
The camp gay - generally they are just being themselves. The more comfortable a person feels with those around him the easier it is to be very silly and campy. However, it is still 'them'
Some men flip flop, some men are only top and some men are only bottom.
Take it slow. No need to rush into anything. I say simply go to a bar and have drinks and hang out and meet people. Get a comfort level before you proceed. Your very honest approach would certainly win points with me.
You sound like an exceptionally nice guy I am sure you will work this out just fine.
lol, camp. i just call them flamboyant or flamers, depends on if i like them or not, and it's not always an act
not always, rarely actually, as both are equals and most ppl are versitile.
lol, go for it then. just be safe and make sure ur comfortable, and the guy ur with. honestly, i think with that, ull be taken advantage of and may even hurt the other person, as sex does kinda mean something to some ppl. but i think u should at least like them.....
Would you be suspicious?
Here's the scenario. Wife is admittedly attracted to older, well-off men. One such gentleman has recently begun flirting with her, offering drinks at his bar (without husband), to take her on rides on his motorcycle, and now in his new Bentley. To this point, she has told me about such incidents. On internet history, I find searches on the gentleman, his business, and then the following in order: How do men flirt?, how do older men flirt with younger women?, cheating if both people are married, why do men say they'll call and then don't, and one other. Should I be suspicious based solely on such a search history?Would you be suspicious?
Yes, those are signs she is seriously considering doing something more than just hanging out and chatting with this guy at his bar. Keep your eyes open and your wife entertained, otherwise she'll find this other chap way more attractive.Would you be suspicious?
yes you should considering what you said earlier
why are they spending so much time together while they are married to other people?
it can only be because they want to build something out of this sudden friendship
considering the fact that this woman has always been interested in man like him, there's definitely something there
the search also proves something
Just cos ur wife likes to flirt doesn't giv u reason to be suspicious. Flirting is just like fun to some people. So don't jump to conclusions but if u don't like it tell ur wife.Dont blame the old man am sure he's trying to re-live his youth and ur wife indulging him.
YESSSSSS!!! its very suspicious.... the fact that a guy is giving nice treatment to your wife... i dont think that that man has no bad intention at all to your wife... talk it over with your wife and tell her if you are not comfortable about the issue.
You shouldn't be suspicious based on what you found on the computer. What should make you suspicious is your wife's interest in Hefner.
That's tight to flirt with a married person. I would be suspicious. You need to have a talk with her.
better talk to her, and sort out the issue. Remember trust is always important for a healthy relation.
yes you should be suspicious
Uh, YEAH.
yes i would. totally.
but i guess you should talk to her first.
I'd contact Cheaters
Yes, those are signs she is seriously considering doing something more than just hanging out and chatting with this guy at his bar. Keep your eyes open and your wife entertained, otherwise she'll find this other chap way more attractive.Would you be suspicious?
yes you should considering what you said earlier
why are they spending so much time together while they are married to other people?
it can only be because they want to build something out of this sudden friendship
considering the fact that this woman has always been interested in man like him, there's definitely something there
the search also proves something
Just cos ur wife likes to flirt doesn't giv u reason to be suspicious. Flirting is just like fun to some people. So don't jump to conclusions but if u don't like it tell ur wife.Dont blame the old man am sure he's trying to re-live his youth and ur wife indulging him.
YESSSSSS!!! its very suspicious.... the fact that a guy is giving nice treatment to your wife... i dont think that that man has no bad intention at all to your wife... talk it over with your wife and tell her if you are not comfortable about the issue.
You shouldn't be suspicious based on what you found on the computer. What should make you suspicious is your wife's interest in Hefner.
That's tight to flirt with a married person. I would be suspicious. You need to have a talk with her.
better talk to her, and sort out the issue. Remember trust is always important for a healthy relation.
yes you should be suspicious
Uh, YEAH.
yes i would. totally.
but i guess you should talk to her first.
I'd contact Cheaters
How to flirt with an English man ?
I like an english man. We had several clear and long eye contact. He stares at me for minutes. This mutual staring relationship has been going on for at least 3 weeks and I am bored. Five days ago I attempted to smile and say hi. But he immediately turned his head. What does this mean ? How should I flirt with an English man?How to flirt with an English man ?
The people above are right - I can't even hold a staring contest with a girl for more than 3 seconds unless I'm drunk/ on transport. Theres all the proof u need that in fact some guys are just shy. Just maybe talk to him.How to flirt with an English man ?
sounds creepy. go to him say hay babe either ask me out or stop staring.
why would you want to better off with a SCOTTISH MAN
I m going with suzee buy him a beer or a kebab.
I think he's a bit shy. If he keeps staring at you then I think it means he likes you. If he his shy though, you must bite the bullet and go up to talk to him. It's no good just staring at each other, you'll get nowhere and someone may get in there first. If you start up a friendship you can see what he's really like then, you might not even like him if you talked to him. Ask him out for a drink after work. He may open up a bit if he's plyed with drink, lol.
You're bored after three weeks? My good woman, we English chaps like to keep the mutual staring going for two or three years before ';smiling'; as you so charmingly put it. Don't worry, and remember: it's rude to blink during the ';staring'; (By the way, did you know that if you're staring at the Queen, you're only allowed to blink if she blinks first? It's royal protocol, and the British way!)
It's most likely that he has one false eye or is very short sighted. when he does it again stand very close to him and ask him what he's looking at. English men love that. And then beep him on his nose and run off, They love that as well. By the way I know the Queen and live next door to Windsor Castle. That's one of those big houses that's older than a hundred.
Some men are shy...so maybe you need to be the one who is upfront with him.
what has being english got to do with it lol?
Girl...you need to get out more... go with girlfriends or something, a man is a man no matter what race/religion/creed...(mind you there are some exceptions)
Have a job...........
Buy him a beer...cute myspace long hair cut
The people above are right - I can't even hold a staring contest with a girl for more than 3 seconds unless I'm drunk/ on transport. Theres all the proof u need that in fact some guys are just shy. Just maybe talk to him.How to flirt with an English man ?
sounds creepy. go to him say hay babe either ask me out or stop staring.
why would you want to better off with a SCOTTISH MAN
I m going with suzee buy him a beer or a kebab.
I think he's a bit shy. If he keeps staring at you then I think it means he likes you. If he his shy though, you must bite the bullet and go up to talk to him. It's no good just staring at each other, you'll get nowhere and someone may get in there first. If you start up a friendship you can see what he's really like then, you might not even like him if you talked to him. Ask him out for a drink after work. He may open up a bit if he's plyed with drink, lol.
You're bored after three weeks? My good woman, we English chaps like to keep the mutual staring going for two or three years before ';smiling'; as you so charmingly put it. Don't worry, and remember: it's rude to blink during the ';staring'; (By the way, did you know that if you're staring at the Queen, you're only allowed to blink if she blinks first? It's royal protocol, and the British way!)
It's most likely that he has one false eye or is very short sighted. when he does it again stand very close to him and ask him what he's looking at. English men love that. And then beep him on his nose and run off, They love that as well. By the way I know the Queen and live next door to Windsor Castle. That's one of those big houses that's older than a hundred.
Some men are shy...so maybe you need to be the one who is upfront with him.
what has being english got to do with it lol?
Girl...you need to get out more... go with girlfriends or something, a man is a man no matter what race/religion/creed...(mind you there are some exceptions)
Have a job...........
Buy him a beer...
How can I use my femininity to flirt with an older man (in a classy way)? (Or, how can any woman do so?)?
honey its not a good idea to play with sentiments of someone
but still here are some tips:
1) Never wear a bra inside and always wear light colored and loose cloths.
2) keep moving ur eyes while u talk and have a moment in between to look deep into the eyes without revealing ur intention.
3) if u r at a distance and don't have a talk then use ur head and eye moment for creating confusion and curiosity
4) unnecessarily smile once then look for a moment in his eyes, just for a flash of second.
5) keep urself in an athletic mood and allow ur buns (without a bra to bump like pendulum.
5) After few days keep urself away from his eyes.
6) never act smart. make em feel ur innocence filled with a passionate appeal ( like i will die to grab you when u just wake up in the morning and raise ur both hands in a slow rythemic motion to declare that u r awake to conquor the whole world)
phew ..... i have already gone passionate about you honey.. lol
wish god fulfills my fanatasy
your only fantasyHow can I use my femininity to flirt with an older man (in a classy way)? (Or, how can any woman do so?)?
Start taking care of him, touch by hand can express many things you are unable to say , also will know his reaction.How can I use my femininity to flirt with an older man (in a classy way)? (Or, how can any woman do so?)?
You're in university and looking for graduate school, so I feel ok about answering this:
Look at refining your habits and tastes (don't swill beer and act silly - Julia Roberts wore that act out years ago). Are your tastes the same as when you were in high school? Someone told me recently, ';I need to start dressing like an adult.'; It was true. Sometimes it's time to just grow up. Also, keep in mind that older men hang onto really childish habits, too, particularly ones who would date younger women. People who seem very adult can be horribly, disappointingly immature.
Maybe you're not really looking for an older man, just a more cultured, intelligent person that you can relate to. Good luck - and be careful.
people like other people for them selves. Trying to hard can some times be a turn off.
learn what this man likes and dislikes
get to know Him as a person there is no right or wrong way. but every one is different
everyone loves boobs with nice women attached
show boobage
just be sweet, to a guy of class thats the best way to get his attention
Dress sexy, but not slutty. If its a co-worker, ask him a question about something and then suggest lunch for him helping you.
Why dont you ask a stripper or prostitute, or better yet, a homewrecker.
but still here are some tips:
1) Never wear a bra inside and always wear light colored and loose cloths.
2) keep moving ur eyes while u talk and have a moment in between to look deep into the eyes without revealing ur intention.
3) if u r at a distance and don't have a talk then use ur head and eye moment for creating confusion and curiosity
4) unnecessarily smile once then look for a moment in his eyes, just for a flash of second.
5) keep urself in an athletic mood and allow ur buns (without a bra to bump like pendulum.
5) After few days keep urself away from his eyes.
6) never act smart. make em feel ur innocence filled with a passionate appeal ( like i will die to grab you when u just wake up in the morning and raise ur both hands in a slow rythemic motion to declare that u r awake to conquor the whole world)
phew ..... i have already gone passionate about you honey.. lol
wish god fulfills my fanatasy
your only fantasyHow can I use my femininity to flirt with an older man (in a classy way)? (Or, how can any woman do so?)?
Start taking care of him, touch by hand can express many things you are unable to say , also will know his reaction.How can I use my femininity to flirt with an older man (in a classy way)? (Or, how can any woman do so?)?
You're in university and looking for graduate school, so I feel ok about answering this:
Look at refining your habits and tastes (don't swill beer and act silly - Julia Roberts wore that act out years ago). Are your tastes the same as when you were in high school? Someone told me recently, ';I need to start dressing like an adult.'; It was true. Sometimes it's time to just grow up. Also, keep in mind that older men hang onto really childish habits, too, particularly ones who would date younger women. People who seem very adult can be horribly, disappointingly immature.
Maybe you're not really looking for an older man, just a more cultured, intelligent person that you can relate to. Good luck - and be careful.
people like other people for them selves. Trying to hard can some times be a turn off.
learn what this man likes and dislikes
get to know Him as a person there is no right or wrong way. but every one is different
everyone loves boobs with nice women attached
show boobage
just be sweet, to a guy of class thats the best way to get his attention
Dress sexy, but not slutty. If its a co-worker, ask him a question about something and then suggest lunch for him helping you.
Why dont you ask a stripper or prostitute, or better yet, a homewrecker.
Anxiety at and about work??
I have an anxiety disorder and there are lots of changes at work. My boss retired and one of my peers has taken her place as acting director. One girl continuously talks about finding another job, her looks, men flirting with her and other annoying things. Another coworker is talking about leaving in December and yet another one is planning to retire in March. Another of my coworkers has already left to have a baby and she probably won't be returning.
Through all of these changes my job has stayed the same, but all of these external things are making my anxiety worse. I don't want to come to work and when I'm here I don't want to be here. I like what I do don't get me wrong about that, but I don't know how to handle all of the anxiety. I cry just about every morning and I don't want to leave home. I'm absolutely miserable. Any suggestions?? Anyone been through this? What do you do when your coworkers drive you nuts?Anxiety at and about work??
I suggest you find a new jobAnxiety at and about work??
Well, from my experience I have found no one is going to change because they upset me. I wish they would, but it just isn't going to happen. For me I practice everyday turning a deaf ear to gossip, innuendo's, small talk around the office. Come in, do my work and go home. That is all I can do. If they are upsetting me, it is not them that have the problem, it is I. This is a very hard lesson to learn. Let go and let them be what ever they need to be. Peace to You.
go talk to someone, a doc before you really lose it it sounds like you are nearing the end of your rope.
this is too serious to depend on YA for help.
At my last job, my boss and coworker left within weeks (the three of us made up the department), then they hired a socially inept person to take over as boss and a co-op to recreate the department. I was so anxious about it I got migraines. I started looking for a new job and found a great replacement job with more support and stability. I recommend at least looking at other employment opportunities.
I have been there, not only at work but other situations.
I was given klonopin to alleviate the symptoms.
I suggest that if your job is causing more anxiety, LEAVE!
It's not healthy for you.
Wow are you sure you don't work with me? :) Lots of annoying people here as well and I hate it, I made friends with the cool ones but I use headphones to block out the irritating ones. Its not worth getting so upset over, its just a job, if you don't feel things are going to get any better maybe its time to look for another job.
Through all of these changes my job has stayed the same, but all of these external things are making my anxiety worse. I don't want to come to work and when I'm here I don't want to be here. I like what I do don't get me wrong about that, but I don't know how to handle all of the anxiety. I cry just about every morning and I don't want to leave home. I'm absolutely miserable. Any suggestions?? Anyone been through this? What do you do when your coworkers drive you nuts?Anxiety at and about work??
I suggest you find a new jobAnxiety at and about work??
Well, from my experience I have found no one is going to change because they upset me. I wish they would, but it just isn't going to happen. For me I practice everyday turning a deaf ear to gossip, innuendo's, small talk around the office. Come in, do my work and go home. That is all I can do. If they are upsetting me, it is not them that have the problem, it is I. This is a very hard lesson to learn. Let go and let them be what ever they need to be. Peace to You.
go talk to someone, a doc before you really lose it it sounds like you are nearing the end of your rope.
this is too serious to depend on YA for help.
At my last job, my boss and coworker left within weeks (the three of us made up the department), then they hired a socially inept person to take over as boss and a co-op to recreate the department. I was so anxious about it I got migraines. I started looking for a new job and found a great replacement job with more support and stability. I recommend at least looking at other employment opportunities.
I have been there, not only at work but other situations.
I was given klonopin to alleviate the symptoms.
I suggest that if your job is causing more anxiety, LEAVE!
It's not healthy for you.
Wow are you sure you don't work with me? :) Lots of annoying people here as well and I hate it, I made friends with the cool ones but I use headphones to block out the irritating ones. Its not worth getting so upset over, its just a job, if you don't feel things are going to get any better maybe its time to look for another job.
How to make diffrence between lesbian woman, shy woman,and conservative woman with their connection with man?
the related thing between lesbian woman, shy woman,and conservative woman that they don't flirt or date a man. So, if a woman is not giving a man some connections like flirting, dating ... how to know if she was lesbian, ultra-conservative, or just shy?How to make diffrence between lesbian woman, shy woman,and conservative woman with their connection with man?
Well there not clear cut obvious but offhand i would figure things would be as follows.
A shy girl will still flirt or drop hints of interest; it just wont be as open and vocal like a extroverted person.
A strongly conservative type will more than likely be vocal about it and stress some belief they have on the subject or react to a advance by yourself to express their reluctance to jump into a relationship or fool around,etc.
A lesbian...i would more than figure if she was a TRUE lesbian and not bi-sexual,will more than likely not flirt obviously and spurn any advance you may make and not go into any belief, but simply turn you down without hesitancy .How to make diffrence between lesbian woman, shy woman,and conservative woman with their connection with man?
stop trying to figure out women and drink a beer you pussy. if this is a women then drink a beer. women just want to be impressed wether it's a man or women just keep them wanting more
conservative women are shy lesbians stuck in a closet but afraid to come out because of how their conservative society will react
lmao i think you just know. My girlfriend was really shy when I first met her but, I never thought she was a lesbian. She put a guard up b/c of a bad relationship past. But, I could tell she liked me
Well there not clear cut obvious but offhand i would figure things would be as follows.
A shy girl will still flirt or drop hints of interest; it just wont be as open and vocal like a extroverted person.
A strongly conservative type will more than likely be vocal about it and stress some belief they have on the subject or react to a advance by yourself to express their reluctance to jump into a relationship or fool around,etc.
A lesbian...i would more than figure if she was a TRUE lesbian and not bi-sexual,will more than likely not flirt obviously and spurn any advance you may make and not go into any belief, but simply turn you down without hesitancy .How to make diffrence between lesbian woman, shy woman,and conservative woman with their connection with man?
stop trying to figure out women and drink a beer you pussy. if this is a women then drink a beer. women just want to be impressed wether it's a man or women just keep them wanting more
conservative women are shy lesbians stuck in a closet but afraid to come out because of how their conservative society will react
lmao i think you just know. My girlfriend was really shy when I first met her but, I never thought she was a lesbian. She put a guard up b/c of a bad relationship past. But, I could tell she liked me
Eyeglasses and drag question?
Every year for Halloween, I go dressed as a woman.
I'm not a drag queen, and I only do it on Halloween because its too much work to do more often and I'm allergic to 95% of the make-up.
But I do a good job impersonating a woman and I know I am passable. I can go into a biker bar or other really anti-gay bar and have straight men flirt with me because they are SURE I am a real woman.
MY QUESTION - I have to wear eyeglasses all the time because my vision is so bad. I am nearly legally blind and without glasses, I don't even feel comfortable walking around my own home, let alone out in public.
However, when I wear my glasses while doing drag, it takes away from the look, and people who know me can always tell its me due to my glasses. What can I do about the eyeglasses when I do drag? I can't not wear them due to my vision being so bad, and I don't think I would be able to have contact lenses due to how poor my vision is, and its too close to Halloween to get them now anyway.Eyeglasses and drag question?
Go to WalMart , they have a large selection of glasses in either sex style, so you can have your girly frames for cheap. These are on the rack glasses and should be near the pharmacy.Eyeglasses and drag question?
Would you consider laser treatment on your eyes, if your eyes are so bad? Then you wouldn't need to wear the glasses at all, or contact lenses.
Specsavers and similar could set you up with contact lenses on the day you go in for testing, they have them in stock. Phone them up and check.
Well, you could buy another pair of glasses in a more feminine style; but maybe that would be a little expensive for just one night a year.
(Incidentally; those straight men who are flirting with you MAY have clocked you straight away, and just be having a little fun....be careful, and don't get overconfident)
Lenscrafters! Get your glasses or contacts quick.
go buy a pair of women's glasses and only use them for Halloween. Big over-sized ones are always good for costumes!
I'm not a drag queen, and I only do it on Halloween because its too much work to do more often and I'm allergic to 95% of the make-up.
But I do a good job impersonating a woman and I know I am passable. I can go into a biker bar or other really anti-gay bar and have straight men flirt with me because they are SURE I am a real woman.
MY QUESTION - I have to wear eyeglasses all the time because my vision is so bad. I am nearly legally blind and without glasses, I don't even feel comfortable walking around my own home, let alone out in public.
However, when I wear my glasses while doing drag, it takes away from the look, and people who know me can always tell its me due to my glasses. What can I do about the eyeglasses when I do drag? I can't not wear them due to my vision being so bad, and I don't think I would be able to have contact lenses due to how poor my vision is, and its too close to Halloween to get them now anyway.Eyeglasses and drag question?
Go to WalMart , they have a large selection of glasses in either sex style, so you can have your girly frames for cheap. These are on the rack glasses and should be near the pharmacy.Eyeglasses and drag question?
Would you consider laser treatment on your eyes, if your eyes are so bad? Then you wouldn't need to wear the glasses at all, or contact lenses.
Specsavers and similar could set you up with contact lenses on the day you go in for testing, they have them in stock. Phone them up and check.
Well, you could buy another pair of glasses in a more feminine style; but maybe that would be a little expensive for just one night a year.
(Incidentally; those straight men who are flirting with you MAY have clocked you straight away, and just be having a little fun....be careful, and don't get overconfident)
Lenscrafters! Get your glasses or contacts quick.
go buy a pair of women's glasses and only use them for Halloween. Big over-sized ones are always good for costumes!
What's the difference between a flirty man, and a man who flirts specifically?
There's a man I go to college with and he's always seemingly flirty with me. He always touches my arm softly, and gives me sweet smiles.
Now is he interested, or does a typical flirty man do this with everyone? I don't notice him doing it with anyone else though.
He's a straight forward type of man, so I would think he'd say something. How can I know if he's being a general flirt, or specifically to me?What's the difference between a flirty man, and a man who flirts specifically?
If he's only flirting with you then he's attracted to you. Ask him to starbucks and see if you have a connection. Do you flirt with him too...
Now is he interested, or does a typical flirty man do this with everyone? I don't notice him doing it with anyone else though.
He's a straight forward type of man, so I would think he'd say something. How can I know if he's being a general flirt, or specifically to me?What's the difference between a flirty man, and a man who flirts specifically?
If he's only flirting with you then he's attracted to you. Ask him to starbucks and see if you have a connection. Do you flirt with him too...
Do virgo men like to flirt with other girls?
A virgo man im seeing is flirting with other girls even MY COUSIN and yet he says im his baby and everything..does he just want sex? or i that how he is?
what shall i do as i am completely head over heels for him.
im a pisces.Do virgo men like to flirt with other girls?
YES THEY ARE CHEATS AND LIARSSSS!!!!
IM A PISCES TOO, PLEASE STAY AWAY THEY FLIRT WITH OTHER GIRLS AND TELL U THEY LOVE U PFTTT... LIARSSS!Do virgo men like to flirt with other girls?
My ex, son-in-law, ex father-in-law, good friend are all Virgo men, and yes to your question, they love to flirt. But it is usually only when you are around. Makes them seem more studly I think, is their thought, lol. I think when your not, they are more quiet, and reserved. I believe they are a femine sign, so that may be why they seem more comfortable around women, but not sure. Virgo men usually only cheat, when their needs aren't taken care of, and this isn't just sex.
I just started sorta seeing a Virgo man and through other people I found out that he has like three other girls that he dates.Even though I out right asked him in the beginning if he was seeing anyone else.He told me he wasn't.He also later admitted that he still see's his ex-wife.I've also noticed that he never answers his phone in front of me.Look for the classic warning signs and protect yourself from guys like this.Some guys ,regardless of their sign,will disregard our feelings in order to chase anything with a pulse.
I dunno. It depends on him. I have a friend that's a Virgo, that flirts with lots of girls but is also very loyal to his girlfriend.
When I was with a Virgo he had tons of female friends and tons of ex-girlfriends. He left me for another girl in the end so yeah.
Well virgos can be afraid of commitment, but hm he'll probably be faithful, do you know his moon or venus sign?
u are a better woman than me.if i were u i should have ended the r/ship long time back.i knw u love him but flirting with ur cousin!
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what shall i do as i am completely head over heels for him.
im a pisces.Do virgo men like to flirt with other girls?
YES THEY ARE CHEATS AND LIARSSSS!!!!
IM A PISCES TOO, PLEASE STAY AWAY THEY FLIRT WITH OTHER GIRLS AND TELL U THEY LOVE U PFTTT... LIARSSS!Do virgo men like to flirt with other girls?
My ex, son-in-law, ex father-in-law, good friend are all Virgo men, and yes to your question, they love to flirt. But it is usually only when you are around. Makes them seem more studly I think, is their thought, lol. I think when your not, they are more quiet, and reserved. I believe they are a femine sign, so that may be why they seem more comfortable around women, but not sure. Virgo men usually only cheat, when their needs aren't taken care of, and this isn't just sex.
I just started sorta seeing a Virgo man and through other people I found out that he has like three other girls that he dates.Even though I out right asked him in the beginning if he was seeing anyone else.He told me he wasn't.He also later admitted that he still see's his ex-wife.I've also noticed that he never answers his phone in front of me.Look for the classic warning signs and protect yourself from guys like this.Some guys ,regardless of their sign,will disregard our feelings in order to chase anything with a pulse.
I dunno. It depends on him. I have a friend that's a Virgo, that flirts with lots of girls but is also very loyal to his girlfriend.
When I was with a Virgo he had tons of female friends and tons of ex-girlfriends. He left me for another girl in the end so yeah.
Well virgos can be afraid of commitment, but hm he'll probably be faithful, do you know his moon or venus sign?
u are a better woman than me.if i were u i should have ended the r/ship long time back.i knw u love him but flirting with ur cousin!
I know that Leo';s do
How can you tell when a capricorn man likes you?
i have a cap in mind. how can i tell the difference between friendship and fancy? so far this guy cooked me a lavish meal, then asked me if i would be interested in being set up with other men. he flirts often. we had a 9hr long discussion about intellectual stuff, until 1am. he told me about his family, past relationships, past depression. he's considerate, etc. but i am not sure if this is different than what he would normally do with any other girl. and him being a cap, he's moody, so i just don't know. he's kind in private and dismissive in company. oh and please, don't tell me to disregard the zodiac, this is pure inquiry, i do have a brain otherwise. i am a virgo by the way.How can you tell when a capricorn man likes you?
If he hasn't made a move yet given your intimacy, my guess is your cap is gay.How can you tell when a capricorn man likes you?
this guys likes you, dont go off the zodiac it is useless in relationships. i know you told us not to tell u this but its true.
He really wants a future with you...
Read below please! Thats how my ex is.
Ohhh the ';you'; is the capricorn person!
';This astrological combination indicates that you possess great strength of will and force of character. You can exercise remarkable self-control if necessary in order to gain some future benefit. Pride and a desire for recognition of your merits are the basic reasons for your self-reliance.
You always act positively and with great determination. A powerful enemy, you don't rest until you have revenged yourself fully. You always insist on getting to the root of things, investigating and probing until you have discovered their source. You exhibit qualities useful in a leader, whether in politics or business. The key to a more harmonious existence lies in mastering your indomitable and unyielding will.
Usually, because of the dual nature of this sign, your experiences seem always to oscillate between two extremes. Emotionally, you may become confounded and perplexed when your soul is torn between opposite attractions. Your temperament is, nevertheless, kindly and able to appreciate the most SUBTLE (please remember that word!) emotional experiences.
Essentially, you are expansive, guided by intuition and emotion, and falling very easily into elated or depressive moods.
You have a natural ability to perceive from unknown sources where the mind does not intervene. Such an ability, unfortunately, is usually misunderstood or has little application in life. If you do become involved in art, however, there are very good prospects for success as a painter, musician, writer, or poet.
Your sexual life will be highly varied and intense. When you fall in love, you feel as if the limitations of your personality are dissolving and you are receptive to everything that exists.
Your mind appears as very adaptable, gentle, peace-loving and tactful. This position indicates that the secret for your ability to reach a state of harmony and emotional balance may come through the use of your higher mental powers. You have been born with an exquisitely refined, artistic mind which has a very subtle appreciation of all that has to do with culture. Your disposition is kind, congenial, gentle and sympathetic and you have a natural ability to assist other individuals.
In a practical sense, your attitude to all higher intellectual functions is that of a studious, serious, and meditative person. You must, however, be attentive to the possible presence of several challenging elements in your intellectual make-up such as depression, fear, and severity.
Throughout your life you will receive assistance from persons occupying superior positions in life. After middle age there are strong possibilities that you will gain in reputation and esteem through relationships with people of prominence. Destiny may grant you sufficient strength of character and even opportunities to carry out your wishes to their utmost.
Spiritually, you seem to have a loyal disposition and you are straightforward and honestly oriented. You're very well aware, however, of a sense of superiority and dignity.';
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the zodiac is right in some relationships. i'm a cap but i'm also a girl. he really likes u. i say go 4 it. if it don't work out then the zodiac was wrong. it just mostly depends on the pp not the zodiac.
If he hasn't made a move yet given your intimacy, my guess is your cap is gay.How can you tell when a capricorn man likes you?
this guys likes you, dont go off the zodiac it is useless in relationships. i know you told us not to tell u this but its true.
He really wants a future with you...
Read below please! Thats how my ex is.
Ohhh the ';you'; is the capricorn person!
';This astrological combination indicates that you possess great strength of will and force of character. You can exercise remarkable self-control if necessary in order to gain some future benefit. Pride and a desire for recognition of your merits are the basic reasons for your self-reliance.
You always act positively and with great determination. A powerful enemy, you don't rest until you have revenged yourself fully. You always insist on getting to the root of things, investigating and probing until you have discovered their source. You exhibit qualities useful in a leader, whether in politics or business. The key to a more harmonious existence lies in mastering your indomitable and unyielding will.
Usually, because of the dual nature of this sign, your experiences seem always to oscillate between two extremes. Emotionally, you may become confounded and perplexed when your soul is torn between opposite attractions. Your temperament is, nevertheless, kindly and able to appreciate the most SUBTLE (please remember that word!) emotional experiences.
Essentially, you are expansive, guided by intuition and emotion, and falling very easily into elated or depressive moods.
You have a natural ability to perceive from unknown sources where the mind does not intervene. Such an ability, unfortunately, is usually misunderstood or has little application in life. If you do become involved in art, however, there are very good prospects for success as a painter, musician, writer, or poet.
Your sexual life will be highly varied and intense. When you fall in love, you feel as if the limitations of your personality are dissolving and you are receptive to everything that exists.
Your mind appears as very adaptable, gentle, peace-loving and tactful. This position indicates that the secret for your ability to reach a state of harmony and emotional balance may come through the use of your higher mental powers. You have been born with an exquisitely refined, artistic mind which has a very subtle appreciation of all that has to do with culture. Your disposition is kind, congenial, gentle and sympathetic and you have a natural ability to assist other individuals.
In a practical sense, your attitude to all higher intellectual functions is that of a studious, serious, and meditative person. You must, however, be attentive to the possible presence of several challenging elements in your intellectual make-up such as depression, fear, and severity.
Throughout your life you will receive assistance from persons occupying superior positions in life. After middle age there are strong possibilities that you will gain in reputation and esteem through relationships with people of prominence. Destiny may grant you sufficient strength of character and even opportunities to carry out your wishes to their utmost.
Spiritually, you seem to have a loyal disposition and you are straightforward and honestly oriented. You're very well aware, however, of a sense of superiority and dignity.';
Hugssssssssssssssss,
Valentinna
the zodiac is right in some relationships. i'm a cap but i'm also a girl. he really likes u. i say go 4 it. if it don't work out then the zodiac was wrong. it just mostly depends on the pp not the zodiac.
Why does married man likes to flirt?
ok i just want to know just in case so i could confront him and tell him to back off and remind him that he is married. by the way i think it happened to me at work but im too blind to see it. im going to teell you how it happened. i was talking to him at work and i had my hand at the counter and all of a sudden he put his hand in mine and i couldnt move because he had his in top of mine and my hand is very little and i couldnt move or do anything. the thing is that he just keep talking to me like nothing had happened i was like what does he wants from me. then later on he was talking to a coworker and then he saw me and came to me and started to talk to me again. the other coworker said hey he left me togo to you and talk to you instead of me. i said i didnt do that its not my problem he did it. so i thought that maybe in some other convo the two of them had had they were talking about me because the other coworker said that like he is attracted to me or something like that. well teell me what y9ou think im not going to flirt with him or something like that i just want to know waht things do you guys do so i could warn him .thanks btw im no ho or slut or anything like thatWhy does married man likes to flirt?
He think he smarter than you and he believes he nothing to lose when he flirt with you. Just tell him to behave himself %26amp; avoid him. Remember, there plenty for you to lose if you get too close to him; your reputation is at stake.Why does married man likes to flirt?
When he does it again
Just let him know that you do not like married men.
If it go to far, tell your boss
because thats the way ALL guys are you only notice it now because ur with him all the time and u see how he really is a big a hole
He think he smarter than you and he believes he nothing to lose when he flirt with you. Just tell him to behave himself %26amp; avoid him. Remember, there plenty for you to lose if you get too close to him; your reputation is at stake.Why does married man likes to flirt?
When he does it again
Just let him know that you do not like married men.
If it go to far, tell your boss
because thats the way ALL guys are you only notice it now because ur with him all the time and u see how he really is a big a hole
How can i keep my love from another girl?
now adays men flirt a lot of girls with my lover it make me very mad i love him but i dont know how to keep him with me foreverHow can i keep my love from another girl?
If you are worried about HOW to keep him........maybe he's really not worth keeping.............How can i keep my love from another girl?
Ive never had this problem with men. You are the one who decides how you will be treated. If a man really loves you, he will NEVER flirt with another woman or give you cause to be jealous. If you are with a man who likes to do these type of things, then I feel sorry for you because he will never be yours. Do not sell yourself short, dump him and find a real man who will cherish you.
Sounds like you mean well for him. 99.99% of relationships go through some sort of rough trial period where you find out if the love is true by some test of faith through temptation. Your bond is strong if the two make it through wihtout falling for other parteners. You can't controll the will of a man (or woman), basicly you have to put your trust in that person and hope that their resolution to be faithful is as strong as your own.
if you love someone then set him free.if its yours then it will come back to you. SIMPLE
treat him like as ur best friend??
u ll get the answers!
You gotta trust him.
If you don't trust him, then you can always chain him to the couch and give him the remote.
The thing is, even if we're with ';the one';, other women don't just suddenly disappear for us.
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Be confident. You NEED confidence. Don't let insecurities drive him off. If the love is real, if you're happy, then don't worry about it.
go on a vacation together and make him realize you're the one.
If you are worried about HOW to keep him........maybe he's really not worth keeping.............How can i keep my love from another girl?
Ive never had this problem with men. You are the one who decides how you will be treated. If a man really loves you, he will NEVER flirt with another woman or give you cause to be jealous. If you are with a man who likes to do these type of things, then I feel sorry for you because he will never be yours. Do not sell yourself short, dump him and find a real man who will cherish you.
Sounds like you mean well for him. 99.99% of relationships go through some sort of rough trial period where you find out if the love is true by some test of faith through temptation. Your bond is strong if the two make it through wihtout falling for other parteners. You can't controll the will of a man (or woman), basicly you have to put your trust in that person and hope that their resolution to be faithful is as strong as your own.
if you love someone then set him free.if its yours then it will come back to you. SIMPLE
treat him like as ur best friend??
u ll get the answers!
You gotta trust him.
If you don't trust him, then you can always chain him to the couch and give him the remote.
The thing is, even if we're with ';the one';, other women don't just suddenly disappear for us.
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Be confident. You NEED confidence. Don't let insecurities drive him off. If the love is real, if you're happy, then don't worry about it.
go on a vacation together and make him realize you're the one.
How to deal with a FLIRTING overdose?
So I'm a huge flirt. I even flirt here, on yahoo answers. Basically I'm one of the biggest flirts. Do men like such flirty women? Oh and I'm 22, so maybe that factors in? Are men turned off, by a woman who flirts greatly?How to deal with a FLIRTING overdose?
depend on who you flirt with
depend on who you flirt with
WHY does this married man continue to flirt with me?
I have a married male coworker that has been flirting with me for months now. When we first started working together many years ago, I thought he was cute, but when I saw the ring, left him alone because it's not in my nature to go after married men. I then met my current, serious boyfriend and have been with him for several years. Then a few months ago the coworker %26amp; I looked at each other in a certain way and that's how the flirting started.
The problem is that I went from being totally content with my boyfriend to constantly thinking about the married man. When I try to get my sanity back and stop flirting with him, them he seems upset. Can he really just be trying to get in my pants? I don't see how he wouldn't have respect for me - we've worked together for over 6 years and I've never so much as dated someone from work - I like to keep my personal life separate. What do you think is really going on here - true love or just a passing lust for each other???WHY does this married man continue to flirt with me?
I don't know what is going on, but you need to leave him alone. He is a married man, and you shouldn't be flirting with him.WHY does this married man continue to flirt with me?
I would not mix business with pleasure, especially with him, a married man. I definitely think this is about lust, not love for each other.
He thinks he possibly has a chance with you because you flirt back with him. I see that he wants a taste of your love, but I would not fall for it. He's not going to leave his wife anytime soon and your not going to leave your man anytime soon either, so why even go there.
Being more then co-workers with him is only going to make things even more complicated in your life, right now you don't need that.
It must be a physical attraction between the two of you. If anything, remember to judge your actions and tell yourself if you do something with this married man - how would your boyfriend think?
Anyway, I know a married man with a newborn chasing after me and it's quite uncomfortable for me. I know my boundaries and respect his family, I would never cross the line.
Don't be a home wrecker. Remember flirtation feels nice but could you live with yourself if something actually materialized out of this relationship? you've mentioned about keeping your work and social life separate...great idea, keep it that way. Just blow the guy off and you'll feel much better about yourself, especially when you come face to face with the wife at your next x-mas party.
You're infatuated. It's not love. Love seeks to avoid and prevent the kind of pain your relationship would cause.
Just leave it alone. The heartache for all involved (you, your boyfriend, him, his wife, any children they may have) will not be worth it.
Stop flirting (while you're in a relationship)... You see where it leads.
He just wants some ***! seriously i think you should stop flirting with your co worker ( i know its hard).. its going to make it hard for you to stop. you should be happy that you have a bf that keeps you happy. i say slowly start making one word small talk and right when you know he might get the message.
Sometimes people flirt to find out if they're still attractive to the opposite sex. Sometimes people do this at work to make work more interesting. Whatever the reasons, you're treading on thin ice so it's best to cool it off right away.
he is interested in getting you in the sack. His marriage proably blows. If you are this attracted to him, you should try it out with him. If you don't like him as a sex partner after that then dump him.
He only wants sex and has no respect for his wife. Let your boss know about the (sexual) harassment to see what can be done. If you're feeling spiteful, let his wife know what he is doing.
Passing lust...the grass is always greener in someone else's back yard. Besides..it's not your nature to go after a married man..remember that quote? Hope this helps....
Who cares why he's doing it?
What is really important is WHY YOU are paying attention to it instead of telling him to back off....or just ignoring it.
What do you think is going to happen when you flirt? Your letting him know your interested. Lesson learned...don't flirt!
Just Lust.... dont be a home wrecker
What's going on is that he is looking for an affair and you are sending him mixed signals.
Don't kid yourself, if he was in love with you, he would have divorced his wife a long time ago, so he could pursue a relationship with you. He wants to get into your pants. PERIOD!!!
Why would you even consider getting involved with a married man? He's off limits!!! Just put yourself in his wife's place. How would you feel if your husband slept with one of his co-workers? Do you really want to settle for some woman's sloppy seconds? What makes you think that during the past 6 years, this guy hasn't cheated on his wife with some other woman and he wants you to be next on his list?
Why would you even consider destroying your relationship with your boyfriend and become a home wrecker? Haven't you heard the saying, once a cheater, always a cheater? If this man will cheat on his wife to be with you, then he won't think twice about cheating on you to be with some other woman.
If you can't put this guy out of your mind and concentrate on your present relationship, then maybe it's time to change jobs, before you do something you will be sorry for.
Sounds as though he wants to take an advantage of you, not seriously looking for a relationship in my opinion. Male and female attract each other especially when both of you are attractive and constantly face each other...convenient law of sex appeal. As you mentioned, it's best to avoid the relationship with coworkers, and some companies have policies where one party has to leave the company. And you have a boyfriend of long time and you love him ? Why harm your genuine relationship for a just flirting incidence ?
I'd tell your coworker to stop it.cute myspace long hair cut
The problem is that I went from being totally content with my boyfriend to constantly thinking about the married man. When I try to get my sanity back and stop flirting with him, them he seems upset. Can he really just be trying to get in my pants? I don't see how he wouldn't have respect for me - we've worked together for over 6 years and I've never so much as dated someone from work - I like to keep my personal life separate. What do you think is really going on here - true love or just a passing lust for each other???WHY does this married man continue to flirt with me?
I don't know what is going on, but you need to leave him alone. He is a married man, and you shouldn't be flirting with him.WHY does this married man continue to flirt with me?
I would not mix business with pleasure, especially with him, a married man. I definitely think this is about lust, not love for each other.
He thinks he possibly has a chance with you because you flirt back with him. I see that he wants a taste of your love, but I would not fall for it. He's not going to leave his wife anytime soon and your not going to leave your man anytime soon either, so why even go there.
Being more then co-workers with him is only going to make things even more complicated in your life, right now you don't need that.
It must be a physical attraction between the two of you. If anything, remember to judge your actions and tell yourself if you do something with this married man - how would your boyfriend think?
Anyway, I know a married man with a newborn chasing after me and it's quite uncomfortable for me. I know my boundaries and respect his family, I would never cross the line.
Don't be a home wrecker. Remember flirtation feels nice but could you live with yourself if something actually materialized out of this relationship? you've mentioned about keeping your work and social life separate...great idea, keep it that way. Just blow the guy off and you'll feel much better about yourself, especially when you come face to face with the wife at your next x-mas party.
You're infatuated. It's not love. Love seeks to avoid and prevent the kind of pain your relationship would cause.
Just leave it alone. The heartache for all involved (you, your boyfriend, him, his wife, any children they may have) will not be worth it.
Stop flirting (while you're in a relationship)... You see where it leads.
He just wants some ***! seriously i think you should stop flirting with your co worker ( i know its hard).. its going to make it hard for you to stop. you should be happy that you have a bf that keeps you happy. i say slowly start making one word small talk and right when you know he might get the message.
Sometimes people flirt to find out if they're still attractive to the opposite sex. Sometimes people do this at work to make work more interesting. Whatever the reasons, you're treading on thin ice so it's best to cool it off right away.
he is interested in getting you in the sack. His marriage proably blows. If you are this attracted to him, you should try it out with him. If you don't like him as a sex partner after that then dump him.
He only wants sex and has no respect for his wife. Let your boss know about the (sexual) harassment to see what can be done. If you're feeling spiteful, let his wife know what he is doing.
Passing lust...the grass is always greener in someone else's back yard. Besides..it's not your nature to go after a married man..remember that quote? Hope this helps....
Who cares why he's doing it?
What is really important is WHY YOU are paying attention to it instead of telling him to back off....or just ignoring it.
What do you think is going to happen when you flirt? Your letting him know your interested. Lesson learned...don't flirt!
Just Lust.... dont be a home wrecker
What's going on is that he is looking for an affair and you are sending him mixed signals.
Don't kid yourself, if he was in love with you, he would have divorced his wife a long time ago, so he could pursue a relationship with you. He wants to get into your pants. PERIOD!!!
Why would you even consider getting involved with a married man? He's off limits!!! Just put yourself in his wife's place. How would you feel if your husband slept with one of his co-workers? Do you really want to settle for some woman's sloppy seconds? What makes you think that during the past 6 years, this guy hasn't cheated on his wife with some other woman and he wants you to be next on his list?
Why would you even consider destroying your relationship with your boyfriend and become a home wrecker? Haven't you heard the saying, once a cheater, always a cheater? If this man will cheat on his wife to be with you, then he won't think twice about cheating on you to be with some other woman.
If you can't put this guy out of your mind and concentrate on your present relationship, then maybe it's time to change jobs, before you do something you will be sorry for.
Sounds as though he wants to take an advantage of you, not seriously looking for a relationship in my opinion. Male and female attract each other especially when both of you are attractive and constantly face each other...convenient law of sex appeal. As you mentioned, it's best to avoid the relationship with coworkers, and some companies have policies where one party has to leave the company. And you have a boyfriend of long time and you love him ? Why harm your genuine relationship for a just flirting incidence ?
I'd tell your coworker to stop it.
Is my boyfriend's best friend and his good friend flirting with me? 0___0 how should I take this?
he gave me his jacket (and put it on me) because I was cold and he's really nice to me and well totally get along, but my boyfriend keeps insulting him and telling me not to trust him and that he is a bad person who only acts nice and that he is probably just secretly staring at my cleavage (my bf will spend two minutes staring at a stranger girl's cleavage RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME and will even mention it to me and his friend has always looked me in the eyes when he speaks with me!):/
His other good friend seems to be flirting with me for sure though...calling me beautiful and being super nice etc and he even told my boyfriend off for not paying enough attention to me and mentioned that I was being really cute and got upset with my bf for not being good enough to me:/
Anyways, I think my boyfriend is beginning to feel threatened but doesn't want to say anything...
He hasn't been treating me all that well lately so this seems like a godsend...a wake up call to my boyfriend to start shaping up...
Anyways, I'm not going to cheat on my boyfriend because I love him, but he hasn't been treating me as well as his friends...
I felt so happy when his friend told me that my hair was the most beautiful color...my boyfriend has never complimented my hair color (auburn)...even when I mentioned that I liked my natural color. His friend noticed that I was shivering IN FRONT OF my bf and put his coat on me and my boyfriend didn't even remember an ';i love you'; ecard I sent him just for the heck of it.
Anyways, how should I handle this situation (to hopefully make my boyfriend even more jealous so he realizes that I actually am desirable [random men flirt with me even when I am holding hands with my bf] so hopefully his friends doing so will wake him up? :/)
Thanks :)Is my boyfriend's best friend and his good friend flirting with me? 0___0 how should I take this?
Flirt back right in front of your boyfriend ! Just compliment his friend back see what he does about it ! If things don't work out between you and your boyfriend then dump him as you can see plenty of fishys out in the sea! YA XD
His other good friend seems to be flirting with me for sure though...calling me beautiful and being super nice etc and he even told my boyfriend off for not paying enough attention to me and mentioned that I was being really cute and got upset with my bf for not being good enough to me:/
Anyways, I think my boyfriend is beginning to feel threatened but doesn't want to say anything...
He hasn't been treating me all that well lately so this seems like a godsend...a wake up call to my boyfriend to start shaping up...
Anyways, I'm not going to cheat on my boyfriend because I love him, but he hasn't been treating me as well as his friends...
I felt so happy when his friend told me that my hair was the most beautiful color...my boyfriend has never complimented my hair color (auburn)...even when I mentioned that I liked my natural color. His friend noticed that I was shivering IN FRONT OF my bf and put his coat on me and my boyfriend didn't even remember an ';i love you'; ecard I sent him just for the heck of it.
Anyways, how should I handle this situation (to hopefully make my boyfriend even more jealous so he realizes that I actually am desirable [random men flirt with me even when I am holding hands with my bf] so hopefully his friends doing so will wake him up? :/)
Thanks :)Is my boyfriend's best friend and his good friend flirting with me? 0___0 how should I take this?
Flirt back right in front of your boyfriend ! Just compliment his friend back see what he does about it ! If things don't work out between you and your boyfriend then dump him as you can see plenty of fishys out in the sea! YA XD
Is this true about white men?
i have white men flirt with me all the tome, hit on me and some say they love me and want to marry me. but some white guys flirt differently than the guys i grew up with. i can't tell. they definitley think i'm hot and there are some i think are hot too. but a lot of connections have not been made. i have dated some but they were not the right guys period. be honest. do white guys really want to date beautiful black girls seriously, or is it just a fantasy, or try something you never had kind of thing. my friend says they only like me because i am like forbidden fruit, or like an exotic treat, someone to sleep with but never to take seriously. is this really true? or are they just afraid. i hope not cause first of all i live around mostly white guys and i would love to date some. if it is true then that's kind of sad how race can be a difference. is race still a big deal in dating? be honest guys, what do you think of black girls? no rude comments anyone.Is this true about white men?
For me, I would date, even marry a beautiful black woman if we had the right chemistry. I don't even like using the designations ';black'; and ';white';. It's all really ridiculous. We're all people. People are people.
I don't know how ';normal'; I am though.Is this true about white men?
of course it is possible for them to want to date you seriously race doesnt matter that is a very silly thing to think my dad is asian my mom is white and look around girl how many interracial couples do you see its thinking like that that only feeds the hate
for me no its not true --- if there was a black lady interested in me and who i was interested in i would be looking for a long term relationship ---- i would not be interested in something short term as an exotic date --- best wishes
Though I cannot speak for the entire demographic, I do not think race is the direct cause, but it may be indirectly responsible. Each race has it's own culture associated with it, and different cultures are less likely to have the same interests. If a woman of another race is into the same things I am, I do not think race is an issue. But I do not think I enjoy the same things that the majority of the members of other races do, and I generally end up dating members of my own race as a result.
race is a big deal and always will be... thats NOT RUDE just honest
It's a little of both. Some guys are really interested in having a relationship with you. Some of them are just looking to ';score with the black girl';.
..........?
For me, I would date, even marry a beautiful black woman if we had the right chemistry. I don't even like using the designations ';black'; and ';white';. It's all really ridiculous. We're all people. People are people.
I don't know how ';normal'; I am though.Is this true about white men?
of course it is possible for them to want to date you seriously race doesnt matter that is a very silly thing to think my dad is asian my mom is white and look around girl how many interracial couples do you see its thinking like that that only feeds the hate
for me no its not true --- if there was a black lady interested in me and who i was interested in i would be looking for a long term relationship ---- i would not be interested in something short term as an exotic date --- best wishes
Though I cannot speak for the entire demographic, I do not think race is the direct cause, but it may be indirectly responsible. Each race has it's own culture associated with it, and different cultures are less likely to have the same interests. If a woman of another race is into the same things I am, I do not think race is an issue. But I do not think I enjoy the same things that the majority of the members of other races do, and I generally end up dating members of my own race as a result.
race is a big deal and always will be... thats NOT RUDE just honest
It's a little of both. Some guys are really interested in having a relationship with you. Some of them are just looking to ';score with the black girl';.
..........?
SERIOUS Q FOR MEN ONLY. Have you ever felt like..?
You were being used for sex and you wouldn't like it?
Let's say, a young, pretty, attractive girl looking for a fling. You like her and care about her. You and her got involved romantically and sexually. She made it clear to you that she didn't want a serious committed relationship cuz she hasn't over her ex.
She is like your best friend. Not only, sex you have with her but she's a good listener, she's always willing to help you out. You both have great conversation together, she's smart and witty. She never fails to make you laugh. She can stimulate your mind. She's so much fun to be around. She's just a nice girl who is afraid of commitment.
Let's say you're a 40 years old divorce. You are a businessman. You're free and successful.
You care about this girl but sometimes you seem to get jealous if any man flirts with her, texts her etc. Man! She鈥檚 only 25 for God's sake. But she's lovely to you.
What are the possibilities that you want to end it all with her?
You start to avoid her and fake to be mean to her. You get more sensitive. You just want to piss her off, even though you know you care. You want to end it.
Why?
Don鈥檛 tell me you just want to have sex, if so, why would you wanna end?
Yeah. I鈥檓 talking about me and him. He鈥檚 avoiding me now and I鈥檓 falling.
I know we are not meant to be and all I wanna know is how he feels about me? I wanna know why he ends it and doesn鈥檛 even wanna be friends with me as if he want me to be out of his life!
Sometimes I get the feelings that he thinks I鈥檓 using him. I don鈥檛 know. Tell me.
P.s. he鈥檚 a divorce for sure!SERIOUS Q FOR MEN ONLY. Have you ever felt like..?
Well I can only ever give my opinion on a subject, but I might be able to give you something to shed some light on his actions.
I'll try and give you what I think his perspective might be. He feels inadequate, like he doesn't deserve you, whether it be an age thing or whatever. That is where the jealousy comes in, he is insecure that you'll leave him for a younger man at any time. So whenever you flirt or talk with another one, he thinks you're about to leave him.
Now say he starts to fall for you and he still has these feelings of inadequacy, his reaction would be to push you away, so that he doesn't get hurt. If he were to feel too much for you and you got up and left him, he would be crushed. So he avoids you. He does have feelings for you, but he's afraid of them.SERIOUS Q FOR MEN ONLY. Have you ever felt like..?
This sounds just like another question that was posted. Let me guess you met him in Hawaii and he lives a few states awyay?
Listen he got what he wanted and now he is moving on. You wouldn't get hurt if you didn't give it up on the first night. I would classify you as a ho!! Have a nice day
alright, sorry to be harsh. Guys his age wants to show that he still has it. You are his trophy. Yes, he wants to have you for sex, especially you just asked for a fling. A divorced man needs some release, once he's conquered your territory, he moves on. You leave him no challenge. You may or may not be his dream woman. If he ever gets married again, he needs someone who is probably 35 (10 years older) and capable of taking care of him.
Well.. To start ... Your situation will never end in a good one..
I feel sorry for you, but at the same time.. I have been the guy many times in a situation like that.. When it comes down to it.. All you can do is just take it and go. The man will care for you and in ways he put some of the emotions he had with his previous relationship in with you. At the same time you knew what you wanted getting into it.. But then you got attached. Sex is never just sex.. When you get intimate with someone all the sudden you see things differently....
Good luck to you.. I hope it all works out.
Let's say, a young, pretty, attractive girl looking for a fling. You like her and care about her. You and her got involved romantically and sexually. She made it clear to you that she didn't want a serious committed relationship cuz she hasn't over her ex.
She is like your best friend. Not only, sex you have with her but she's a good listener, she's always willing to help you out. You both have great conversation together, she's smart and witty. She never fails to make you laugh. She can stimulate your mind. She's so much fun to be around. She's just a nice girl who is afraid of commitment.
Let's say you're a 40 years old divorce. You are a businessman. You're free and successful.
You care about this girl but sometimes you seem to get jealous if any man flirts with her, texts her etc. Man! She鈥檚 only 25 for God's sake. But she's lovely to you.
What are the possibilities that you want to end it all with her?
You start to avoid her and fake to be mean to her. You get more sensitive. You just want to piss her off, even though you know you care. You want to end it.
Why?
Don鈥檛 tell me you just want to have sex, if so, why would you wanna end?
Yeah. I鈥檓 talking about me and him. He鈥檚 avoiding me now and I鈥檓 falling.
I know we are not meant to be and all I wanna know is how he feels about me? I wanna know why he ends it and doesn鈥檛 even wanna be friends with me as if he want me to be out of his life!
Sometimes I get the feelings that he thinks I鈥檓 using him. I don鈥檛 know. Tell me.
P.s. he鈥檚 a divorce for sure!SERIOUS Q FOR MEN ONLY. Have you ever felt like..?
Well I can only ever give my opinion on a subject, but I might be able to give you something to shed some light on his actions.
I'll try and give you what I think his perspective might be. He feels inadequate, like he doesn't deserve you, whether it be an age thing or whatever. That is where the jealousy comes in, he is insecure that you'll leave him for a younger man at any time. So whenever you flirt or talk with another one, he thinks you're about to leave him.
Now say he starts to fall for you and he still has these feelings of inadequacy, his reaction would be to push you away, so that he doesn't get hurt. If he were to feel too much for you and you got up and left him, he would be crushed. So he avoids you. He does have feelings for you, but he's afraid of them.SERIOUS Q FOR MEN ONLY. Have you ever felt like..?
This sounds just like another question that was posted. Let me guess you met him in Hawaii and he lives a few states awyay?
Listen he got what he wanted and now he is moving on. You wouldn't get hurt if you didn't give it up on the first night. I would classify you as a ho!! Have a nice day
alright, sorry to be harsh. Guys his age wants to show that he still has it. You are his trophy. Yes, he wants to have you for sex, especially you just asked for a fling. A divorced man needs some release, once he's conquered your territory, he moves on. You leave him no challenge. You may or may not be his dream woman. If he ever gets married again, he needs someone who is probably 35 (10 years older) and capable of taking care of him.
Well.. To start ... Your situation will never end in a good one..
I feel sorry for you, but at the same time.. I have been the guy many times in a situation like that.. When it comes down to it.. All you can do is just take it and go. The man will care for you and in ways he put some of the emotions he had with his previous relationship in with you. At the same time you knew what you wanted getting into it.. But then you got attached. Sex is never just sex.. When you get intimate with someone all the sudden you see things differently....
Good luck to you.. I hope it all works out.
Wondering if i should stay with my boyfriend or leave, he is so dis repectful to me?
every time my %26amp;i are out he has to check out every chick in the bar%26amp; leaves me sitting by myself for such a long time, then i find out he's talking to these women. don't you think that is disrepectful? can't he just talk to me and be with me his girlfriend. also found phone numbers so what should i do, even though he says he loves me. i'm so confused he's been doing this for a long time. should i start looking at other men %26amp;flirt with them? leave my b/f sitting by himself for a change or should i finnd a man who knows how to treat a women? i need advice now thank youWondering if i should stay with my boyfriend or leave, he is so dis repectful to me?
I didn't even have to read the whole, thing...the first sentence was enough. Yes, that's disrespectful!! Why would you let someone do that to you and make you feel this way? It's not right and I would say it's time work on your confidence level and move on.Wondering if i should stay with my boyfriend or leave, he is so dis repectful to me?
This is totally disrespectful. When you go out with your boyfriend he is supposed to pay attention to you not other women. Definitely move on from this relationship. He is not worth it. Good Luck!
if he loved u he wouldnt do this 2 u. i say either break up wit him or pull the same and c how he likes it. either break up or get even.
Tell him how you feel about what he's doing, if he's not too thick to realize it by himself. Then if he still refuses to change, then leave him.
do the same to him... Get a guy, kiss him in front of him and say: ';Err... sorry i met someone... can't be with you anymore. C' ya'; after that just dump the random guy you found...
Looking and flirting with other men isn't going to help anything...it isn't like this would change your boyfriend's behavior, or the fact that he has been disrespectful to you. Sure, he may get jealous but think about it...do you really think this will CHANGE anything? Probably not. And I think you already know that. I'll bet there are other things he does that you haven't mentioned here that are also signs of disrespect towards you.
So it is up to you on whether or not to stay with a guy who has no problem with disrespect toward you.
If you don't dump that prick..I will kick your *** LOL
I say you leave him. You don't want to go and do the same thing to him. Move on. Theres plenty more fish in the sea.
first play the same games with him. let him see how it feels. if he says anything tell him he better stop or he will be replaced. and if he doesn't stop, leave him.
I didn't even have to read the whole, thing...the first sentence was enough. Yes, that's disrespectful!! Why would you let someone do that to you and make you feel this way? It's not right and I would say it's time work on your confidence level and move on.Wondering if i should stay with my boyfriend or leave, he is so dis repectful to me?
This is totally disrespectful. When you go out with your boyfriend he is supposed to pay attention to you not other women. Definitely move on from this relationship. He is not worth it. Good Luck!
if he loved u he wouldnt do this 2 u. i say either break up wit him or pull the same and c how he likes it. either break up or get even.
Tell him how you feel about what he's doing, if he's not too thick to realize it by himself. Then if he still refuses to change, then leave him.
do the same to him... Get a guy, kiss him in front of him and say: ';Err... sorry i met someone... can't be with you anymore. C' ya'; after that just dump the random guy you found...
Looking and flirting with other men isn't going to help anything...it isn't like this would change your boyfriend's behavior, or the fact that he has been disrespectful to you. Sure, he may get jealous but think about it...do you really think this will CHANGE anything? Probably not. And I think you already know that. I'll bet there are other things he does that you haven't mentioned here that are also signs of disrespect towards you.
So it is up to you on whether or not to stay with a guy who has no problem with disrespect toward you.
If you don't dump that prick..I will kick your *** LOL
I say you leave him. You don't want to go and do the same thing to him. Move on. Theres plenty more fish in the sea.
first play the same games with him. let him see how it feels. if he says anything tell him he better stop or he will be replaced. and if he doesn't stop, leave him.
I dont know what to make of this........?
I had a doc's appointment this a.m. and needed x rays. Anyways, when the xray guy came in he commented to me.....'; You have gorgeous eyes.'; Well, I was a bit taken, and replied ';thnk you';.........he was very nice, we joked alot....had alot in commmon. He quickly began to tell me about how he and his wife moved to this area, and not soon after...she left him. He explained to me that they were married for 16yrs. (no kids) and that it was really upsetting to him. I asked why she left(kinda bold, I know) he stated ';she fell outta luv w/ me';.......now, I have been married for 14yrs. to the same man, and have not had much experience in how men flirt....when they are and what not. Please dont laugh!!!! I had alot in common w/ this guy. My husband was in the waiting room and after we came out he said...(my hubby) ';I could hear you guys laughing all the way out here!'; So, any input would be helpful. It was nice to talk to someone who I had alot in common with. Thnx everyone.I dont know what to make of this........?
it's normal and common to bond with someone you share alot of the interests.
but it sounds to me it is a bit more then that. it might not have been that this man was flirting, he might just have needed someone to talk to. but i have no idea why he would just spill everything out to someone, especially when he is working.
he did give you a compliment and they are great to hear.
are you having problems with your marriage? does you husband not give you the attention you feel you deserve? it could also be you don't really have anyone to talk to and it's nice to talk to someone.
you might just need to make a new friend or join a group. there is nothing wrong with what happened i just hope it did not spark thoughts in your mind to start wandering.
good luck and why not talk to your husband? even though you may not share some of the same interests, i bet he would love to hear you talk about them anyways!I dont know what to make of this........?
I think its a normal talk and you guys had fun thats it...
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it's normal and common to bond with someone you share alot of the interests.
but it sounds to me it is a bit more then that. it might not have been that this man was flirting, he might just have needed someone to talk to. but i have no idea why he would just spill everything out to someone, especially when he is working.
he did give you a compliment and they are great to hear.
are you having problems with your marriage? does you husband not give you the attention you feel you deserve? it could also be you don't really have anyone to talk to and it's nice to talk to someone.
you might just need to make a new friend or join a group. there is nothing wrong with what happened i just hope it did not spark thoughts in your mind to start wandering.
good luck and why not talk to your husband? even though you may not share some of the same interests, i bet he would love to hear you talk about them anyways!I dont know what to make of this........?
I think its a normal talk and you guys had fun thats it...
Cheers
How come? Good or Bad?
I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and he has a jealous problem. Everytime I am out of state he thinks I am cheating on him or he don't like me to speak to men or he doesn't like men to look at me. When men flirt with me he wants me to be rude to them and I think that's wrong. As long as I don't talk to them or give them my number it shouldn't matter?
He is jealousy problem good or bad????How come? Good or Bad?
what is jealousy?
Taken literally, jealousy refers to a strong desire for someone else's stature or possessions. But in a social setting, it causes someone to be doubtful of their partner and feel threatened by their interaction with certain people, the clothes they wear, or the places they go.
But like I mentioned before, there are varying degrees of jealousy:
Cute jealousy
Jealousy does not necessarily merit its negative connotation, after all, it's normal for men to be suspicious of their women (and vice versa). Having reservations about her going to a strip bar with friends or not enjoying the sight of her drooling over some guy in a magazine are innocent examples of how some jealousy can be harmless, and a perfectly normal reaction.
Healthy jealousy
Likewise, a man who voices his concern over having his girlfriend go out with a bunch of guys or seeing another man flirting with her is also part of a healthy relationship. Oftentimes, a man is just looking out for his girlfriend's well-being and women usually respect that. They may even be insulted if you don't say anything.
Obsessive jealousy
The problem arises when aggression and/or violence accompanies the jealousy. Once you've reached this stage, you obsessively begin questioning her loyalty to you, and that sends you into a rage, maybe even using physical force.
You inherit an extremely low tolerance level and, before long, she is unable to even look at another guy or leave your side when you're both out. You demand to know where she is at all times and the mere mention of another guy's name sends you off the deep end.
Where does this jealousy stem from?
You may have acquired this behavior through past experiences with girlfriends. If you have already been cheated on, this may cause you to be more possessive and controlling of her for fear of repetition. Even if she's never given you any reason to doubt her, you become increasingly desperate to hold on to the relationship and want to avoid potentially hazardous situations at all costs.
Similarly, you may be the one who's been unfaithful in the past, and, in a shameful attempt to not have the tables turn on you, you want to ensure that you are the sole object of her desire.
But, for the most part, jealousy is a byproduct of one's own issues with self-confidence and self-esteem. You may feel that you're not good enough for her and that you're together by fluke. Most other guys seem better looking to you and you feel threatened by that.
Watching her interact with other men leaves you feeling worried that she may be ';stolen'; from you. If you've only been with her a short time, you may even be bothered by the close bond she has with her male friends, whom she's known all her life.
why is jealousy dangerous?
Jealousy , for those who can't control it, is detrimental to a relationship because it eats away at the one thing that holds it together: Trust. To tell your girlfriend or wife that she cannot have lunch with a male co-worker is to tell her that you don't trust her (unless she has really given you reason not to). If you have to impose so many restrictions, should you two even be together?
Jealousy also takes away from your quality time together as it would undoubtedly lead to numerous fights whereby you only focus on each other's negative qualities.
Furthermore, you end up spending the bulk of your day foolishly thinking up scenarios in which she may cheat on you. Before you know it, the greater part of your relationship will be spent on what could be happening rather than what is happening.
Jealousy will be harder to control as the relationship progresses, so if yours is reaching dangerously high levels, it's time to get help as soon as possible.How come? Good or Bad?
Insecurity can be bad. Anyone can get jealous. He shouldn't mind that men check you out. It's a natural thing that happens, even when he is not around. He shouldn't deprive you from talking to men. I'm sure he wouldn't like if you told him to stop talking to women. Question him. Ask him how he would feel if he was you. If men flirt with you, obviously you can't flirt back. This is disrespectful in your part. But there's a difference between flirting and complimenting. If they tell you how attractive you look, it's okay. He shouldn't get bother at all. They are just saying how good you look. Giving a thanks to them shouldn't be a issue to him. Your boyfriend has to learn to trust you as much as you do to him. This is one of the main ingredients to keep a steady relationship. No girl, like any guy, should be restricted from anything. If his behavior hurts you, you should leave him and move on. Good luck!
well Jackie, it looks like your boy friend is very insecure and really doesn't like your reaction to the attention your getting.You may not be ready for a monogamous relationship.
Love shouldn't hurt but we all know nothing hurts worst.
Face it he hurts, you're annoyed that he has this problem.
If he were with a girl that only responded to him and rejected all others with a look that would kill, he wouldn't be jealous at all.
Understand Jackie, I don't fault you at all, You guys are just in two different relationships.My opinion, I'm surprised it lasted two years , he's got it bad. You must really be something.
Good luck
jealousy is bad it can cause loads of problems %26amp; arguements try get him to cool it.
probably bad...usually this means HE IS GUILTY of something.
if you have done nothing wrong..then he needs to accept that. or you need to move on. People do stupid things when they are jealous.
It's bad. And it's not going to get any better.
Find someone who deserves you and trusts you. Relationships are built on trust- without that, you have nothing.
talk but make it clear your spoken for. dont flirt with the other guys, if your with another dude and hes seeing you flirting with other guys it wil only make him more insecure
its good that he wants u 2 be faithful its bad that hes 2 overprotective
He's pretty jealous, coz he thinks you'll realise that those other guys are better than he is, even if they arent, and he's sh*t scared that you might cheat on him, because clearly for him that would be an intense heartbreak.
So basically he cares about you, but doesnt trust you entirely. try do something to show commitment, and always make him feel like hes number 1 in your life, especially when he's complaining about that guy you just spoke to. But don't cut the amount of people you hang out with in half because of his issues.
Good or bad? Its subjective, dependant on what you want and whether you want it solved.
jealousy is bad no matter what and your boyfriend is taking it to the limits of being possessive and demanding towards you.
it is only natural that guys will look at girls. And do not be rude to those who are interested in you and are only looking at you.
If you start doing mean things to people because he told you to, then you are letting him know that he can control you. And that is not a good thing ..
As long as you are not doing anything to in courage these guys then you are not in the wrong.As long as you are not looking back with interest ...
That's bad. He sounds VERY insecure.
Insecurity in SOME men can lead to more dangerous problems down the road.
Threats, verbal and physical abuse. They can become SO controlling, that they destroy your whole world by leaving you with no freedom.
Watch him carefully.
The intensity of his jealous is BAD because it sounds like he's a very controlling person. You need to break up with him and don't look back. Trust me, I've been through relationships like this, NO good can possibly come out of it. If he says that he'll change, he'll only change for like at most a month, then he'll turn back to his ugly controlling manner.
bad, very bad. put him in his place before it gets worse.
he should learn to trust you. as for me I would not waste my time checking on what my girlfriend is doing. I would think that after two years he would learn to trust you. (unless you have shown him other wise) I have a very beautiful girlfriend and when people look at her of flirt with her (unless they are my friends) then it makes me realize how lucky I am to have her. I trust her completely. It is a much better feeling then wondering what is going on all of the time. so in a way it is a good thing maybe that he is jealous, because you know that he really has a lot of feelings for you. I just think that he is pushing it just a little to far. I would talk to him and let him know the way that you feel. It would make life a little easier for both of you...
Get rid of him.
My question to you is have you ever cheated before or does he knows that you had cheated before with your previous one.
For example, you cheated on your last boyfriend to get him. How does he know that you would not cheat on him to obtain the next one.
Bad, you are just a friendly person! I would dump him if he doesn't stop - you have to tell him his problem.
It's bad. He's either insecure or unfaithful himself or both. The only time men get overly jealous like that is when they're cheating themselves and they realize that while they're off banging some other chick, some other guy could be banging you.
bad
its not good
it's a bad problem. he's overprotective and insecure. ditch the loser. i think you should be allowed to talk to whoever you want.
thats a pretty bad probalem...he needs to chill and let u get ur groove on sometimes
its bad becouse you cant get to know new people
but it also proves his true love towards you
i dont think the ? is about jeslousy i think its about trust sounds to me that he does not trust u very much so thats not good trust i a relationship is like the #1 imp. thing. so wat u should do is talk to him about it and make sure that he knows that u r not goin to cheat on him.
bad. Sometimes, extreme jealousy can be a sign of two things: 1. It could be a sign that he is cheating, so he expects you to cheat as well.
2. It could be a sign of a controlling personality, wanting to limit your contact with people.
The question would be, have you ever given him a reason to not trust you? Has he ever caught you in a lie? Does he feel that the way you talk to men is inappropriate? Are you a flirt? Look at all those things to make sure that you are not doing anything that would cause him to be suspicious. Then, I'd sit down and talk to him and see if you can discover why.
It's bad..not healthy
He is jealousy problem good or bad????How come? Good or Bad?
what is jealousy?
Taken literally, jealousy refers to a strong desire for someone else's stature or possessions. But in a social setting, it causes someone to be doubtful of their partner and feel threatened by their interaction with certain people, the clothes they wear, or the places they go.
But like I mentioned before, there are varying degrees of jealousy:
Cute jealousy
Jealousy does not necessarily merit its negative connotation, after all, it's normal for men to be suspicious of their women (and vice versa). Having reservations about her going to a strip bar with friends or not enjoying the sight of her drooling over some guy in a magazine are innocent examples of how some jealousy can be harmless, and a perfectly normal reaction.
Healthy jealousy
Likewise, a man who voices his concern over having his girlfriend go out with a bunch of guys or seeing another man flirting with her is also part of a healthy relationship. Oftentimes, a man is just looking out for his girlfriend's well-being and women usually respect that. They may even be insulted if you don't say anything.
Obsessive jealousy
The problem arises when aggression and/or violence accompanies the jealousy. Once you've reached this stage, you obsessively begin questioning her loyalty to you, and that sends you into a rage, maybe even using physical force.
You inherit an extremely low tolerance level and, before long, she is unable to even look at another guy or leave your side when you're both out. You demand to know where she is at all times and the mere mention of another guy's name sends you off the deep end.
Where does this jealousy stem from?
You may have acquired this behavior through past experiences with girlfriends. If you have already been cheated on, this may cause you to be more possessive and controlling of her for fear of repetition. Even if she's never given you any reason to doubt her, you become increasingly desperate to hold on to the relationship and want to avoid potentially hazardous situations at all costs.
Similarly, you may be the one who's been unfaithful in the past, and, in a shameful attempt to not have the tables turn on you, you want to ensure that you are the sole object of her desire.
But, for the most part, jealousy is a byproduct of one's own issues with self-confidence and self-esteem. You may feel that you're not good enough for her and that you're together by fluke. Most other guys seem better looking to you and you feel threatened by that.
Watching her interact with other men leaves you feeling worried that she may be ';stolen'; from you. If you've only been with her a short time, you may even be bothered by the close bond she has with her male friends, whom she's known all her life.
why is jealousy dangerous?
Jealousy , for those who can't control it, is detrimental to a relationship because it eats away at the one thing that holds it together: Trust. To tell your girlfriend or wife that she cannot have lunch with a male co-worker is to tell her that you don't trust her (unless she has really given you reason not to). If you have to impose so many restrictions, should you two even be together?
Jealousy also takes away from your quality time together as it would undoubtedly lead to numerous fights whereby you only focus on each other's negative qualities.
Furthermore, you end up spending the bulk of your day foolishly thinking up scenarios in which she may cheat on you. Before you know it, the greater part of your relationship will be spent on what could be happening rather than what is happening.
Jealousy will be harder to control as the relationship progresses, so if yours is reaching dangerously high levels, it's time to get help as soon as possible.How come? Good or Bad?
Insecurity can be bad. Anyone can get jealous. He shouldn't mind that men check you out. It's a natural thing that happens, even when he is not around. He shouldn't deprive you from talking to men. I'm sure he wouldn't like if you told him to stop talking to women. Question him. Ask him how he would feel if he was you. If men flirt with you, obviously you can't flirt back. This is disrespectful in your part. But there's a difference between flirting and complimenting. If they tell you how attractive you look, it's okay. He shouldn't get bother at all. They are just saying how good you look. Giving a thanks to them shouldn't be a issue to him. Your boyfriend has to learn to trust you as much as you do to him. This is one of the main ingredients to keep a steady relationship. No girl, like any guy, should be restricted from anything. If his behavior hurts you, you should leave him and move on. Good luck!
well Jackie, it looks like your boy friend is very insecure and really doesn't like your reaction to the attention your getting.You may not be ready for a monogamous relationship.
Love shouldn't hurt but we all know nothing hurts worst.
Face it he hurts, you're annoyed that he has this problem.
If he were with a girl that only responded to him and rejected all others with a look that would kill, he wouldn't be jealous at all.
Understand Jackie, I don't fault you at all, You guys are just in two different relationships.My opinion, I'm surprised it lasted two years , he's got it bad. You must really be something.
Good luck
jealousy is bad it can cause loads of problems %26amp; arguements try get him to cool it.
probably bad...usually this means HE IS GUILTY of something.
if you have done nothing wrong..then he needs to accept that. or you need to move on. People do stupid things when they are jealous.
It's bad. And it's not going to get any better.
Find someone who deserves you and trusts you. Relationships are built on trust- without that, you have nothing.
talk but make it clear your spoken for. dont flirt with the other guys, if your with another dude and hes seeing you flirting with other guys it wil only make him more insecure
its good that he wants u 2 be faithful its bad that hes 2 overprotective
He's pretty jealous, coz he thinks you'll realise that those other guys are better than he is, even if they arent, and he's sh*t scared that you might cheat on him, because clearly for him that would be an intense heartbreak.
So basically he cares about you, but doesnt trust you entirely. try do something to show commitment, and always make him feel like hes number 1 in your life, especially when he's complaining about that guy you just spoke to. But don't cut the amount of people you hang out with in half because of his issues.
Good or bad? Its subjective, dependant on what you want and whether you want it solved.
jealousy is bad no matter what and your boyfriend is taking it to the limits of being possessive and demanding towards you.
it is only natural that guys will look at girls. And do not be rude to those who are interested in you and are only looking at you.
If you start doing mean things to people because he told you to, then you are letting him know that he can control you. And that is not a good thing ..
As long as you are not doing anything to in courage these guys then you are not in the wrong.As long as you are not looking back with interest ...
That's bad. He sounds VERY insecure.
Insecurity in SOME men can lead to more dangerous problems down the road.
Threats, verbal and physical abuse. They can become SO controlling, that they destroy your whole world by leaving you with no freedom.
Watch him carefully.
The intensity of his jealous is BAD because it sounds like he's a very controlling person. You need to break up with him and don't look back. Trust me, I've been through relationships like this, NO good can possibly come out of it. If he says that he'll change, he'll only change for like at most a month, then he'll turn back to his ugly controlling manner.
bad, very bad. put him in his place before it gets worse.
he should learn to trust you. as for me I would not waste my time checking on what my girlfriend is doing. I would think that after two years he would learn to trust you. (unless you have shown him other wise) I have a very beautiful girlfriend and when people look at her of flirt with her (unless they are my friends) then it makes me realize how lucky I am to have her. I trust her completely. It is a much better feeling then wondering what is going on all of the time. so in a way it is a good thing maybe that he is jealous, because you know that he really has a lot of feelings for you. I just think that he is pushing it just a little to far. I would talk to him and let him know the way that you feel. It would make life a little easier for both of you...
Get rid of him.
My question to you is have you ever cheated before or does he knows that you had cheated before with your previous one.
For example, you cheated on your last boyfriend to get him. How does he know that you would not cheat on him to obtain the next one.
Bad, you are just a friendly person! I would dump him if he doesn't stop - you have to tell him his problem.
It's bad. He's either insecure or unfaithful himself or both. The only time men get overly jealous like that is when they're cheating themselves and they realize that while they're off banging some other chick, some other guy could be banging you.
bad
its not good
it's a bad problem. he's overprotective and insecure. ditch the loser. i think you should be allowed to talk to whoever you want.
thats a pretty bad probalem...he needs to chill and let u get ur groove on sometimes
its bad becouse you cant get to know new people
but it also proves his true love towards you
i dont think the ? is about jeslousy i think its about trust sounds to me that he does not trust u very much so thats not good trust i a relationship is like the #1 imp. thing. so wat u should do is talk to him about it and make sure that he knows that u r not goin to cheat on him.
bad. Sometimes, extreme jealousy can be a sign of two things: 1. It could be a sign that he is cheating, so he expects you to cheat as well.
2. It could be a sign of a controlling personality, wanting to limit your contact with people.
The question would be, have you ever given him a reason to not trust you? Has he ever caught you in a lie? Does he feel that the way you talk to men is inappropriate? Are you a flirt? Look at all those things to make sure that you are not doing anything that would cause him to be suspicious. Then, I'd sit down and talk to him and see if you can discover why.
It's bad..not healthy
How can i avoid flirtation from homosexuals?
I'm a ladies man, girls flirt with me all the time. The downside of this is that i get a lot of homosexuals flirting with me too. Seeing guys look at me the way i look at a girl when i like her makes me really uncomfortable and sometimes aggressive. My question is: what can i do to prevent the latter?How can i avoid flirtation from homosexuals?
Stop bein' so damn sexy.How can i avoid flirtation from homosexuals?
you can't. you need to be more secure in your own sexuality to not be threatened.
it has been shown in various studies that men that feel as you do - have some internal homosexual tendencies that they attempt to overshadow with such masculine hetero bravado.
get a grip dude.
I seriously doubt you're all that, but I believe you think you are.
Nothing you can do - people will hit on other people. Always have, always will.
But I bet you misinterpret gay guys just being polite or friendly as interested in you.
Now you know what girls go through all the time when guys look at them.
Either everyone needs to stop looking at everyone else, or everyone needs to get a grip and just ignore people that they are not interested in.
now you see what it feels like when you stare at a lesbian...they get uncomfortable and want to kick your ***...stop wearing your moms thongs and skirts and maybe it won't happen...get a grip stop being a homophobic jerk.
just say ';thanks but NO thanks';
get some balls and ignore it
get over youself. your a d-bag
My gay friends are unanimous: Nothing is sexier than a scared straight guy.
Stop being so scared of us!
Stop bein' so damn sexy.How can i avoid flirtation from homosexuals?
you can't. you need to be more secure in your own sexuality to not be threatened.
it has been shown in various studies that men that feel as you do - have some internal homosexual tendencies that they attempt to overshadow with such masculine hetero bravado.
get a grip dude.
I seriously doubt you're all that, but I believe you think you are.
Nothing you can do - people will hit on other people. Always have, always will.
But I bet you misinterpret gay guys just being polite or friendly as interested in you.
Now you know what girls go through all the time when guys look at them.
Either everyone needs to stop looking at everyone else, or everyone needs to get a grip and just ignore people that they are not interested in.
now you see what it feels like when you stare at a lesbian...they get uncomfortable and want to kick your ***...stop wearing your moms thongs and skirts and maybe it won't happen...get a grip stop being a homophobic jerk.
just say ';thanks but NO thanks';
get some balls and ignore it
get over youself. your a d-bag
My gay friends are unanimous: Nothing is sexier than a scared straight guy.
Stop being so scared of us!
Soooo...could he be gay .. This guy I like intresting behavior???
He's knows im bisexual im open at skoo! Well I flirt with him tell him he's cute and he jsut smiled one time i rubbed his head and grabbed his ahnd but people where around and he's ';straight'; so he kinda snatched away still smillinggg ! I flirt wiht him constantly and he gave me his myspace page link when I asked. I thought he coudl have been bi or theres a possibiltiy he was just being friendly or maybe he's was REALLLLLLY bothered by it but smalled from awkwardness but then I noticed today he caught me in the cafeteria smiled and tap my shoulder and waved. SO I thought If I weird him out he wouldn't have been so happy to see me then later on leaving school. He was starring at me really hard and smiling at me and he waved . Then I walked off and we just kept staring I smiled back then got on my bus. What do you think could he like me or be curious. How can I take this to the next step what do you think. would A straight guy wave acknowledge and smile when a gay man flirts and touched.Soooo...could he be gay .. This guy I like intresting behavior???
You're so lucky! I'm open bisexual at school, too, and whenever I flirt with guys at my school, they just say, ';Nice try, George.';
I wouldn't think he is really bothered by it. Because if he was, why would he give you his MySpace URL and say hi to you himself? I think he's curious and kind of has a thing for you. I mean, staring deeply? Smiling? Saying hi? Yes, I think he totally has a thing for you.
Well, if you'd like to take it to the next step, don't try TOO hard like asking him out or something. Little by little, take small steps. Flirt with him a bit more. Talk to him. Do whatever it takes for you to get to know him better. Just... go with the flow. Good luck!Soooo...could he be gay .. This guy I like intresting behavior???
wow dude sound like he could be curious a little and i think you should not flirt with him in front of other people because obivously he doesnt like it or is not fully ready for it . but i would try an have more conversations with him when hes alone an talk to him on myspace that will take ur relationship a step farther.
i would love to hear more about this .
I would be really shy if you just flirting around like that. Based on your description i think i knew how that's guy is.. He just don't seem to know what to says back much, so he could probably interest in you or maybe not, but why wouldn't you borrow a chance sometimes and talk with him about it, if you feel confident enough to discuss it with him.
u r totally gonna get him. one thing, DON'T DO ANYTHING gay WHEN OTHER PEOPLE R AROUND or u may mess things up,,but i'd say u'll b kissing him within 3 weeks. good luck not that u need it
michael alan from gayboytshirts
Try walking together alone or sitting at a bench by yourselves and see whre the conversation leads.
Go for it
You're so lucky! I'm open bisexual at school, too, and whenever I flirt with guys at my school, they just say, ';Nice try, George.';
I wouldn't think he is really bothered by it. Because if he was, why would he give you his MySpace URL and say hi to you himself? I think he's curious and kind of has a thing for you. I mean, staring deeply? Smiling? Saying hi? Yes, I think he totally has a thing for you.
Well, if you'd like to take it to the next step, don't try TOO hard like asking him out or something. Little by little, take small steps. Flirt with him a bit more. Talk to him. Do whatever it takes for you to get to know him better. Just... go with the flow. Good luck!Soooo...could he be gay .. This guy I like intresting behavior???
wow dude sound like he could be curious a little and i think you should not flirt with him in front of other people because obivously he doesnt like it or is not fully ready for it . but i would try an have more conversations with him when hes alone an talk to him on myspace that will take ur relationship a step farther.
i would love to hear more about this .
I would be really shy if you just flirting around like that. Based on your description i think i knew how that's guy is.. He just don't seem to know what to says back much, so he could probably interest in you or maybe not, but why wouldn't you borrow a chance sometimes and talk with him about it, if you feel confident enough to discuss it with him.
u r totally gonna get him. one thing, DON'T DO ANYTHING gay WHEN OTHER PEOPLE R AROUND or u may mess things up,,but i'd say u'll b kissing him within 3 weeks. good luck not that u need it
michael alan from gayboytshirts
Try walking together alone or sitting at a bench by yourselves and see whre the conversation leads.
Go for it
How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
So this past year has been very rocky for my husband and I. I was at my husbands military christmas party and one of his lady co-workers seemed to be acting very strange. I felt funny about it. When we drove home I asked my husband about it. I also asked him how he felt about her. He casually said, ';he was close to her, No really close to her';. I about dropped my jaw at him saying that so openly. I talked to him about it and asked him what he meant and he said, ';we're just friends close friends from being in the same platoon together for so many years.'; I still didn't feel very good about it, So I got snoopy. (No Im not proud of it) But glad I did. I found in his e-mail that he left open on accident that he was e-mailing her and asking to have lunch with her at drill weekends. He was e-mailing her regularly. The e-mail did just seem friendly - not sexual or anything, but he would say maybe we can have lunch this weekend. Then I found he was also signed up for a Adult web site. Which REALLY HURT. I have always loved my husband and been faithful to him so this was a blow to me. Because I had already forgave him for cheating on me when we lived over seas in Italy. He went to school (in the military) and on his off time he would go to a bar and drink with another Navy guy and was sitting with two ladies which over the five weeks turned into dancing and kissing. I was so hurt the first time because I was pregnant at the time and far from all my family. Took a long time to get over but he promised it would NEVER EVER happen again. So to get back to the recent.....I am having a hard time dealing with all of this again. He swere's he did nothing with the lady from the military other than a dinner and talking at lunch and swere's most of the time other people from the platoon was there.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swere's I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time.....He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i'd be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don't trust him. He just doesn't get what he has destoried. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don't know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women ';IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFES SO MUCH'; I JUST DONT KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is truely sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love's me. I cry often, but he doesn't know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It's a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven't told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don't want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrasing for me and I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I know thats sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don't want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We've had enough pain, so envolving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn't want to loose ';US'; when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. But I am so confused. HELP!!!!!!! Does he LOVE ME??????How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
It sounds like you don't have any problem with sharing your feelings. Have you talked with your husband about this with him in front of the counselor? What does the counselor think about your feelings about your husband cheating? Or your presumptions of him cheating?
19 years is a lot of time to let things like this go. I would suggest that you get some help and talk your feelings out first with a Godly counselor (because a worldly person might say that it is alright for your husband to feel this way), the world is getting stranger and stranger about marriage and relationships. We as a Nation should stand up to the things that are wrong and announce that we are not going to allow this into our homes and lives.
I will pray for your marriage and salvation in Jesus Christ. : )
Are you both Christians? I would seek God's answers for your lives. God has saved my marriage and now I answer to God directly and my wife gets the benefit of having a Godly man who leads his family with the Grace and Mercy God shows me to live.
I would read Romans and Corinthians. Start with Corinthians chapter seven and then move on to thirteen, then read Romans. God will direct your paths, so trust in Him. : )How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
Divorce him. Tell him he had chances to prove he's trustworthy and he blew everyone of those chances.
To me, if it was just the woman on the email wanting to meet him for lunch, I wouldn't worry. It sounds like they are just good friends.
When you say he signed up for an adult site, do you mean a dating site or a porn site? If it's porn, just let it go. Nearly all men look at porn, and it's not a reflection on you. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or doesn't find you attractive. Men (and some women) just like the visual stimulation sometimes.
If you're talking about an adult dating site, then that is a problem. To me, it would be counseling, or I am out of there. There's no reason to be on an adult dating site unless you are looking to cheat.
As for the myspace, it depends. Is he really flirting, or is he just friendly? Does he know these people, or is he seeking out random people on the internet?
If he's just friendly or talking to friends, I wouldn't worry. But if he's actively seeking out women on the internet, that's a cause for concern. And again, it would be counseling, or I'm out.
I can honestly tell you that this kind of behavior does not stop. You are reduced to the lowly status of a woman who is just hanging on to a cheating man, until further notice. And only HE can give you the further notice. And he won't. With 99% certainty. Faithful life is just too undramatic to ever go back to. There is no motivation for that. In fact, he'd even prefer the drama of a divorce than a faithful working marriage. Counseling is just yet another drama making him feel powerful. He'll feel some loss from the divorce, but he'll like the drama of it, and he'll welcome the following freedom.
First of all you should be proud you snooped. If you want to know something you got to do what you got to do to find out. Secondly, you NEED to tell your husband exactly how you feel about everything. Unless he gets your pain he cannot fix his actions because he stupidly is not realizing the consequences to his behavior. Talk to him. If your marriage has this great foundation he will get it. Good for you for being brave enough to snoop and confront him. Good luck!
I can't tell you whether or not he loves you because I'm not him. I would encourage you to return to couples therapy and let him hear some of the pain in your heart that you have shared here. I would also encourage you to continue in individual therapy because you need to love yourself MORE than you love your husband! You are in such obvious pain that I'm sure you are not hiding it as well as you think you are from your friends and family, so go back to couples therapy and remain in individual therapy, maybe step up your program or something. Right now you need a major source of support and some better coping mechanisms in place to help you sort through all of this. Good luck to you!
I would tell him he needs to stop the relationship or I am out. Because the past infidelity started kind of like this and grew into cheating so under the circumstances he shouldn't be emailing or having any types of sit downs with females. If he can't handle that and deal with it then his friendship must mean more than his marriage and that is unacceptable. Besides since when does a person who is '; just a friend '; with no other interest act funny around a spouse. Even if they are not sleeping together they have to forming some sort of bond.
No Need to worry the law and its system will completely help you it is the men who need to ask the question
If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you, you'll want to read this
I think you guys need to get rid of your computer, or get really slow internet which will loose interest quickly ( like dial up internet) to keep him away from any situations for him to cheat
I think I understand the feeling completely, you really sound like me so it is not peculiar to you. It's hard to say but men are naturally flirtatious in character, there is however, an exception to the rule. If you can, check on him less so you won't be more hurt. Tell him how much you hurt knowing that he does these things. Let me shock you, most men don't cheat their wives because they love them less, it's just in their nature, they probably don't think about their wives until the did is done and he is exposed, then they will now realise the consequences of their actions. Just pray. that's what I did, it may not work out immediately but it will at the long run. Good luck
Sorry but the vast majority of men cheat! That's the way of the world. I'm a single lady who aims to stay single as such i choose married men! Just because they're doing the same as me, having fun and they won't get all heavy on me and believe me there are loads of married men out there willing to play away and treat me like a princess! As for adult sites, if you mean porn so what? arn't all men interested in porn? What's the harm in that? Does he love you? i suspect you're comfortable to him. It's a roof over his head, meals cooked, clothes washed, family life. Will he cheat again? probably. But he's still coming home to you. You say you love him with all your heart so presumably, you've looked after yourself for him, still slim, still wear makeup, fancy undies and you're still willing to tease him and do nice things for him? If the answer to all that is yes then relax, he may have a fling but he'll probably stick around. If the answer is no, then maybe while you're addressing the issues about him you could take out some time to address those issues about yourself. If more WIVES remembered to stay LOVERS less men would have affairs. Good luck.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swere's I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time.....He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i'd be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don't trust him. He just doesn't get what he has destoried. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don't know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women ';IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFES SO MUCH'; I JUST DONT KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is truely sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love's me. I cry often, but he doesn't know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It's a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven't told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don't want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrasing for me and I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I know thats sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don't want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We've had enough pain, so envolving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn't want to loose ';US'; when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. But I am so confused. HELP!!!!!!! Does he LOVE ME??????How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
It sounds like you don't have any problem with sharing your feelings. Have you talked with your husband about this with him in front of the counselor? What does the counselor think about your feelings about your husband cheating? Or your presumptions of him cheating?
19 years is a lot of time to let things like this go. I would suggest that you get some help and talk your feelings out first with a Godly counselor (because a worldly person might say that it is alright for your husband to feel this way), the world is getting stranger and stranger about marriage and relationships. We as a Nation should stand up to the things that are wrong and announce that we are not going to allow this into our homes and lives.
I will pray for your marriage and salvation in Jesus Christ. : )
Are you both Christians? I would seek God's answers for your lives. God has saved my marriage and now I answer to God directly and my wife gets the benefit of having a Godly man who leads his family with the Grace and Mercy God shows me to live.
I would read Romans and Corinthians. Start with Corinthians chapter seven and then move on to thirteen, then read Romans. God will direct your paths, so trust in Him. : )How can I trust him a second time? What do you think of all of this?
Divorce him. Tell him he had chances to prove he's trustworthy and he blew everyone of those chances.
To me, if it was just the woman on the email wanting to meet him for lunch, I wouldn't worry. It sounds like they are just good friends.
When you say he signed up for an adult site, do you mean a dating site or a porn site? If it's porn, just let it go. Nearly all men look at porn, and it's not a reflection on you. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or doesn't find you attractive. Men (and some women) just like the visual stimulation sometimes.
If you're talking about an adult dating site, then that is a problem. To me, it would be counseling, or I am out of there. There's no reason to be on an adult dating site unless you are looking to cheat.
As for the myspace, it depends. Is he really flirting, or is he just friendly? Does he know these people, or is he seeking out random people on the internet?
If he's just friendly or talking to friends, I wouldn't worry. But if he's actively seeking out women on the internet, that's a cause for concern. And again, it would be counseling, or I'm out.
I can honestly tell you that this kind of behavior does not stop. You are reduced to the lowly status of a woman who is just hanging on to a cheating man, until further notice. And only HE can give you the further notice. And he won't. With 99% certainty. Faithful life is just too undramatic to ever go back to. There is no motivation for that. In fact, he'd even prefer the drama of a divorce than a faithful working marriage. Counseling is just yet another drama making him feel powerful. He'll feel some loss from the divorce, but he'll like the drama of it, and he'll welcome the following freedom.
First of all you should be proud you snooped. If you want to know something you got to do what you got to do to find out. Secondly, you NEED to tell your husband exactly how you feel about everything. Unless he gets your pain he cannot fix his actions because he stupidly is not realizing the consequences to his behavior. Talk to him. If your marriage has this great foundation he will get it. Good for you for being brave enough to snoop and confront him. Good luck!
I can't tell you whether or not he loves you because I'm not him. I would encourage you to return to couples therapy and let him hear some of the pain in your heart that you have shared here. I would also encourage you to continue in individual therapy because you need to love yourself MORE than you love your husband! You are in such obvious pain that I'm sure you are not hiding it as well as you think you are from your friends and family, so go back to couples therapy and remain in individual therapy, maybe step up your program or something. Right now you need a major source of support and some better coping mechanisms in place to help you sort through all of this. Good luck to you!
I would tell him he needs to stop the relationship or I am out. Because the past infidelity started kind of like this and grew into cheating so under the circumstances he shouldn't be emailing or having any types of sit downs with females. If he can't handle that and deal with it then his friendship must mean more than his marriage and that is unacceptable. Besides since when does a person who is '; just a friend '; with no other interest act funny around a spouse. Even if they are not sleeping together they have to forming some sort of bond.
No Need to worry the law and its system will completely help you it is the men who need to ask the question
If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you, you'll want to read this
I think you guys need to get rid of your computer, or get really slow internet which will loose interest quickly ( like dial up internet) to keep him away from any situations for him to cheat
I think I understand the feeling completely, you really sound like me so it is not peculiar to you. It's hard to say but men are naturally flirtatious in character, there is however, an exception to the rule. If you can, check on him less so you won't be more hurt. Tell him how much you hurt knowing that he does these things. Let me shock you, most men don't cheat their wives because they love them less, it's just in their nature, they probably don't think about their wives until the did is done and he is exposed, then they will now realise the consequences of their actions. Just pray. that's what I did, it may not work out immediately but it will at the long run. Good luck
Sorry but the vast majority of men cheat! That's the way of the world. I'm a single lady who aims to stay single as such i choose married men! Just because they're doing the same as me, having fun and they won't get all heavy on me and believe me there are loads of married men out there willing to play away and treat me like a princess! As for adult sites, if you mean porn so what? arn't all men interested in porn? What's the harm in that? Does he love you? i suspect you're comfortable to him. It's a roof over his head, meals cooked, clothes washed, family life. Will he cheat again? probably. But he's still coming home to you. You say you love him with all your heart so presumably, you've looked after yourself for him, still slim, still wear makeup, fancy undies and you're still willing to tease him and do nice things for him? If the answer to all that is yes then relax, he may have a fling but he'll probably stick around. If the answer is no, then maybe while you're addressing the issues about him you could take out some time to address those issues about yourself. If more WIVES remembered to stay LOVERS less men would have affairs. Good luck.
Guy's Help, Is my husband really sorry? Should I try to trust once again? ?
So this past year has been very rocky for my husband and I. I was at my husbands military christmas party and one of his lady co-workers seemed to be acting very strange. I felt funny about it. When we drove home I asked my husband about it. I also asked him how he felt about her. He casually said, ';he was close to her, No really close to her';. I about dropped my jaw at him saying that so openly. I talked to him about it and asked him what he meant and he said, ';we're just friends close friends from being in the same platoon together for so many years.'; I still didn't feel very good about it, So I got snoopy. (No Im not proud of it) But glad I did. I found in his e-mail that he left open on accident that he was e-mailing her and asking to have lunch with her at drill weekends. He was e-mailing her regularly. The e-mail did just seem friendly - not sexual or anything, but he would say maybe we can have lunch this weekend. Then I found he was also signed up for a Adult web site. Which REALLY HURT. I have always loved my husband and been faithful to him so this was a blow to me. Because I had already forgave him for cheating on me when we lived over seas in Italy. He went to school (in the military) and on his off time he would go to a bar and drink with another Navy guy and was sitting with two ladies which over the five weeks turned into dancing and kissing. I was so hurt the first time because I was pregnant at the time and far from all my family. Took a long time to get over but he promised it would NEVER EVER happen again. So to get back to the recent.....I am having a hard time dealing with all of this again. He swearer's he did nothing with the lady from the military other than a dinner and talking at lunch and swearer's most of the time other people from the platoon was there.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swearer's I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time.....He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i'd be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don't trust him. He just doesn't get what he has destroyed. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don't know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women ';IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFE'S SO MUCH'; I JUST DON'T KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is Truly sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love's me. I cry often, but he doesn't know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It's a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven't told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don't want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrassing for me and I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I know that's sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don't want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We've had enough pain, so involving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn't want to loose ';US'; when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. He is constantly tell me that he love's me and never has Cheated since Italy with the Kiss. He tells me he didn't realize the things he was doing recently was going to hurt me or that I would call it cheating. But I am so confused %26amp; not sure if I can trust him. Guys what are some signs that a guy is really sorry. HELP!!!!!!! Guy's Help, Is my husband really sorry? Should I try to trust once again? ?
I am sorry for the pain your going through …this kind of stuff just eats you up, wears you down …..causes fear, distrust, and eventually hardening of the heart.
The answers you seek most likely will not come from here, but from you husband, because every situation is different and most all answers will have that persons experience entwined in them.
“Sorry” to me means: the slightest hint of impropriety will be totally removed from my lifestyle.
That means that he can not have any close friends that are women, no contact with classmates who are women, abandon the my space site………. etc, etc. ….if you’re really sorry; because right now he has not shown that he is trustworthy.
Cheating is just a matter of semantics as Bill Clinton has taught us ….I am not saying your husband is having sex or smoking cigars, but if the time, energy and focus he is putting into others {online or whatever} was spent with the one who he is married to; who he says he loves, and doesn’t want to loose………. we wouldn’t be having this conversation.
As the Bible says: where your thoughts are there will your heart be also
So he needs to change his actions to match his verbal proclamation …..if he wants to keep you, because sooner or later, if this continues …you will just say enough is enough…and who could blame you, you should not have to endure this mental torment …no one should
Guy's Help, Is my husband really sorry? Should I try to trust once again? ?
Too many words !
Men love Women unless they are Gay .
Free love is hard to say NO to .
Better to ask for forgiveness than permission .
He deserves a break from all that conversation .
no way in hell am i reading all of this
if he was really sorry, he would stop the behavior. some people are chronic emotional voids. they need attention from the other sex all the time to feel good about themselves. umless he realizes that there are consequences to his behavior - accepts that it is WRONG - and without serious counselling, your husband is NOT going to change.
i notice that you have a child with cancer and you are dealing with all of that stress. and where are this guy's priorities? lining up other women to get attention from - not supporting his child and his wife emotionally. you have needs too at this difficult time where you could be facing the loss of a child. apparently, you are just not important enough for him to slow down on the cheating - he has no respect for you at all. i'm amazed that some people on here think you should cut him some slack, when he has proven himself so unworthy as a husband and father.
From what I can tell, he only shows some interest in women. But he probably never went all the way and had sex with another woman.
It's normal for all men to be attracted to many women, and not just their wives. And as long as it only remains an attraction that doesn't lead to outright cheating. Then perhaps you should cut your husband some slack.
Going online to an Adult website is not cheating in the normal sense of this word. And perhaps you should let him have this kind of an outlet in order to avoid problems in your relationship with him.
Perhaps your marriage is not perfect. But marriage breakdown and divorce would probably make things worse not just for you and him but also for your kids. And it's this kind of consequences you need to consider before you do anything rash.
been there done that after 28 years of marriage and cheated on twice i can feel your pain but dont have the answers for you because i am still trying to figure it out myself can someone tell why men/women cheat when things seem to be great at home good luck honey
Whattt? your answering you own question,on and on and on,You can try to talk your way out of it all you want(your sure trying to)
Follow your God given female intuition,this guy will make you physically and mentally sick,thats a promise.
Find the strength to say good bye.Like ive always said ';once a cheat always a cheat';
Ditch this idiot,regain your self respect and self confidence.Im a man and I know what men are capable of doing.Don't live HIS lie..............Blessings
im very sorry to hear that.
but to be honest, all guys
are ***'s. you dont need a man.
i got married when i was 17,
divorced at 17 (6 monthes laternow
i'm 37 and i will NEVER get married
i am so confident and independant
i couldnt handle that. sorry thats i have to
say. YOU DONT NEED A MAN
they are ALWAYS trouble. :)
dump him.cute myspace firewall
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swearer's I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time.....He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i'd be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don't trust him. He just doesn't get what he has destroyed. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don't know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women ';IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFE'S SO MUCH'; I JUST DON'T KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is Truly sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love's me. I cry often, but he doesn't know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It's a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven't told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don't want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrassing for me and I don't want anyone to think badly of him. I know that's sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don't want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We've had enough pain, so involving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn't want to loose ';US'; when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. He is constantly tell me that he love's me and never has Cheated since Italy with the Kiss. He tells me he didn't realize the things he was doing recently was going to hurt me or that I would call it cheating. But I am so confused %26amp; not sure if I can trust him. Guys what are some signs that a guy is really sorry. HELP!!!!!!! Guy's Help, Is my husband really sorry? Should I try to trust once again? ?
I am sorry for the pain your going through …this kind of stuff just eats you up, wears you down …..causes fear, distrust, and eventually hardening of the heart.
The answers you seek most likely will not come from here, but from you husband, because every situation is different and most all answers will have that persons experience entwined in them.
“Sorry” to me means: the slightest hint of impropriety will be totally removed from my lifestyle.
That means that he can not have any close friends that are women, no contact with classmates who are women, abandon the my space site………. etc, etc. ….if you’re really sorry; because right now he has not shown that he is trustworthy.
Cheating is just a matter of semantics as Bill Clinton has taught us ….I am not saying your husband is having sex or smoking cigars, but if the time, energy and focus he is putting into others {online or whatever} was spent with the one who he is married to; who he says he loves, and doesn’t want to loose………. we wouldn’t be having this conversation.
As the Bible says: where your thoughts are there will your heart be also
So he needs to change his actions to match his verbal proclamation …..if he wants to keep you, because sooner or later, if this continues …you will just say enough is enough…and who could blame you, you should not have to endure this mental torment …no one should
Guy's Help, Is my husband really sorry? Should I try to trust once again? ?
Too many words !
Men love Women unless they are Gay .
Free love is hard to say NO to .
Better to ask for forgiveness than permission .
He deserves a break from all that conversation .
no way in hell am i reading all of this
if he was really sorry, he would stop the behavior. some people are chronic emotional voids. they need attention from the other sex all the time to feel good about themselves. umless he realizes that there are consequences to his behavior - accepts that it is WRONG - and without serious counselling, your husband is NOT going to change.
i notice that you have a child with cancer and you are dealing with all of that stress. and where are this guy's priorities? lining up other women to get attention from - not supporting his child and his wife emotionally. you have needs too at this difficult time where you could be facing the loss of a child. apparently, you are just not important enough for him to slow down on the cheating - he has no respect for you at all. i'm amazed that some people on here think you should cut him some slack, when he has proven himself so unworthy as a husband and father.
From what I can tell, he only shows some interest in women. But he probably never went all the way and had sex with another woman.
It's normal for all men to be attracted to many women, and not just their wives. And as long as it only remains an attraction that doesn't lead to outright cheating. Then perhaps you should cut your husband some slack.
Going online to an Adult website is not cheating in the normal sense of this word. And perhaps you should let him have this kind of an outlet in order to avoid problems in your relationship with him.
Perhaps your marriage is not perfect. But marriage breakdown and divorce would probably make things worse not just for you and him but also for your kids. And it's this kind of consequences you need to consider before you do anything rash.
been there done that after 28 years of marriage and cheated on twice i can feel your pain but dont have the answers for you because i am still trying to figure it out myself can someone tell why men/women cheat when things seem to be great at home good luck honey
Whattt? your answering you own question,on and on and on,You can try to talk your way out of it all you want(your sure trying to)
Follow your God given female intuition,this guy will make you physically and mentally sick,thats a promise.
Find the strength to say good bye.Like ive always said ';once a cheat always a cheat';
Ditch this idiot,regain your self respect and self confidence.Im a man and I know what men are capable of doing.Don't live HIS lie..............Blessings
im very sorry to hear that.
but to be honest, all guys
are ***'s. you dont need a man.
i got married when i was 17,
divorced at 17 (6 monthes laternow
i'm 37 and i will NEVER get married
i am so confident and independant
i couldnt handle that. sorry thats i have to
say. YOU DONT NEED A MAN
they are ALWAYS trouble. :)
dump him.
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